Daniel

Well basically, I have been in a relationship for 1 1/2 years now, and over time my gf changed (for the worse...). She first became infreqently psychologically abusive and now is it on a frequent basis plus she gets physically abuse, too. I'm starting to think she has BPD and I'm not sure if I should stay and go through therapy with her or just leave. What got me thinking is, I really love her, but then again she has a hard time admitting to her flaws. Not sure if she would do therapy.

Adding to this is, after abusing me or blowing over something really small she has the nerve to ask me to buy stuff for her or calls me a liar as I promised some time ago to buy it but refuse now based on her behavior. Now am I wrong to do so?? I see the concept of keeping word, but with her behavior I feel she doesn't deserve ****. Threats, intimidations...I feel like she became a vicious ***** ( however is always nice around family making it hard to talk to anyone about my issue). Leaving or therapy?

The near monopolistic company Angkasa Pura imposes an airport tax at airports such as Bali, Jakarta or Surabaya for passengers among depature ranging from 20.000 Rupiah for domestic departures to 180.000 Rupiah for international departures. My question is now: Is this even legal? All airline tickets state to be inclusive of airport taxes, but apparently you have to pay again at the airport. So one party is lying here. Either the airport authorities are not entitled to collect the tax, or the airlines did not pay for the taxes. This really bugs me, as I have been living in Indonesia for some time and do business here, meaning I fly regularly. Its not so much about the money, but about the principle. I am just not seeing me paying twice every time and into the company's owner's or some dirty politician's pocket. Cause I am 99% precent sure (after knowing this country quiet well) that this is where its going. I'm not even blaming them, cause they were smart enough to set this profitable monopoly up, but I guess its about time someone brings it down. Garuda Indonesia, the national carrier, is exempting its passengers from this tax btw.. So there is definitely a way around it.

There is this song which is quiet popular around here right now called "You remember" by "Gentleman". But what pisses me off so much is that it is a total ripoff of "Fields of Gold" originally by Sting but especially Eva Cassidy's version is so similar. The intro is a 1:1 copy and the melody

Is stolen too. Where can u report something like this?

Well, the thing is: I don't want to have sex with my girlfriend. What can I do about? The reason is, she cheated on me. And I'm just so hurt, I can't really get intimate with her. It's strange, shes really sexy, but it puts me off. I just have the feelin I can't. Feels wrong.

Well, I am currently enrolled in a double degree program for BBA and Management. I am starting 3rd year now (5th semester). The program is four years, but only 3 are theory, the last one has to be an internship, meaning I'm in last year of uni now. I know its quiet early, but honestly I'm burning on starting to apply, just for the sake of having the security to have found a place as soon as possible. When do you think I should start sending out applications? The intership could start as early as June next year.

Ok, so guys. I need to get to Malang. Originally I booked a ticket to Surabaya, planned to rent a car as I usually do, but none available whatsoever or horrendous prices, its Lebaran coming up. That being said, I am considering driving myself. I know the journey is 400km. I have driven such long trips before, however never across islands with my own car. My car is registered on Bali. Does this cause any trouble when crossing over to Java? I am used to driving here, I have driven rental cars on Java, so I am ok with the traffic and "rules" (I had to laugh myself). I havent driven the route from ferry port to Malang yet. How well are the roads on this route? I know the route from Surabaya to Malang, its fairly smooth, especially the tollway. Is there anything else to consider? And yes it is feasible: Petrol, plus ferry is far less than a 5 day car rental would be at the moment.

Well, I have been playing double bass for more than 10 years, but since I moved I couldnt take my bass with me. A cello however would be possible. So I am considering now to try learning Cello as a second/third instrument. Say you are a fairly advanced on double bass, does that make things easier for learning Cello? I saw one on sale here for a cheap price, however wouldnt have a teacher around. So I thought maybe just buy it and give it a shot?

Hi, I have a flight ticket that's not going to be used. AirAsia is the carrier, doesn't allow refunds. But I'm pretty certain I can claim the fees and taxes back? How exactly would I do that?

Flight tomorrow morning with AirAsia from Denpasar to Singapore, flight back on Sunday evening. My girlfriend decided to leave me alone, so ya :( Price was 250$/2.25jt I'm giving it away for 110$ (1.000.000 Rp.). Please anyone? Would be happy to have someone sitting next to me.

This is like a sequel, up and down up and down. I have been asking here several times and complaining about her never seeing me. Makes me feel I'm annoying. Anyways, after now seeing her for 2 hours the last month, after several broken promises to meet me, I was looking forward do much to a holiday we planned together. It was planned for this weekend. Now I bought tickets for us, a 5-star hotel, I even spend my time arranging travel documents for her to finally spend some quality time. Today morning I hear, "I can't come honey my boss wants me to work tomorrow and if I don't threatens to put me on a blacklist" (She asked 4 weeks in advance to get this one day off, worked the last month without ANY day of free time, 80 hours a week). Now, honestly I'm being really hurt and pissed to have blown a couple 100 bucks in the wind. Not so hard to fix the money part, hard to fix a dream. I don't feel like going alone really. Am I wrong being upset? She asks me to understand, but I just can't. I'm so down really feeling worthless , please any suggestions to make me feel better?

Guys, seriously, I'm asking this again, cause last time I got only crap answers. I did not make this up, I'm not bashing, it's the truth. Just look at the official Toyota Indonesia website if u don't trust me! Please spread the word so Toyota becomes aware that people don't agree with this morally wrong practice! I am living in Indonesia now (originally from Germany) and I have always wondered one thing: Why is the Toyota Avanza so popular here? It is not cheap, not safe and looks ugly, I don't get it. It is locally produced, so unlike other cars no high import duties. Price is like 13500 to 14500$ and u don't even get ABS for that. No airbags, not to talk about ESC. WTH? It's 2012. And it's not reliable either. Test drove one once and after standing for 3 minutes with radio and position light on, the battery died on me. So anyone can solve this for me? Actually I think it's a scandal to sell such a bad, unsafe car in 2012 at this price point under a brand name known for safety!

Besides, it is so morally wrong. This car is targeted at families. It drives like a bathtub on wheels and has no safety features whatsoever. I have heard of several accidents with this car where all passengers died, whole families whiped out. How can u sell this car?? How can u go home and think "well today we did something great, sold another 1000 rolling death traps"

Yea hm, just would to hear an opinion if that's an issue I have to work on or I have a right to be a little suspicious (honestly I feel really bad for being suspicious and don't know how to deal with that, cause I don't know if my suspicion is rightful or not).

So, me and my girlfriend have been together for some time, I'm in my final uni year, she's working (sales position in tourism). Well, I really love her, problem is I rarely see her. Its not that she changed in her behavior, it's always been like that. I mean, understandable since she's working, but on the other hand, the last 3 weeks I saw her for maybe 2 hours... She basically worked the last 3 weeks straight, without a day off (now, I'm not in the US or Europe where u have strict regulations). Every time, like in the evening, we might have time to meet, something seems to come up, like clients arriving, dinner/event she got to attend, etc. Well how that makes me feel, u can imagine. Especially since I have been cheated on before... But then, she calls me every day, randomly, to talk to me or tell me I love u, gives me small things that make me happy and when we meet is very caring (like when I came from a meeting to see her she knew I havent had lunch she cooked me something and brought it, thought that was a really sweet gesture). U know, there is these two sides I see, suspicion, but then again she's really caring. Its such a weird feeling, I don't know what I should think about that?

I am studying in Indonesia and holding a European Glider Pilot License. However, I cant seem to find any possibility to fly a glider/sail plane here? No such clubs here or people who rent? Someone help please. I miss flying

I am living in Indonesia now (originally from Germany) and I have always wondered one thing: Why is the Toyota Avanza so popular here? It is not cheap, not safe and looks ugly, I don't get it. It is locally produced, so unlike other cars no high import duties. Price is like 13500 to 14500$ and u don't even get ABS for that. No airbags, not to talk about ESC. WTH? It's 2012. And it's not reliable either. Test drove one once and after standing for 3 minutes with radio and position light on, the battery died on me. So anyone can solve this for me? Actually I think it's a scandal to sell such a bad, unsafe car in 2012 at this price point under a brand name known for safety!

What can I do to make this feeling go away? I have friends, but doesn't make me feel better. I have a girlfriend who I love so much, but she rarely sees me, always busy. I have no one to share with :(

I have read questions like this, but found no answer. Well, I am in university, she's working. I see her maybe once in two weeks, for example in the last 2 weeks I have seen her for 30 minutes on her break. I have loved her ever since, and Im not gonna break up with her, I want to make it work, no matter what price I pay for that. So what can I do? U know, it really hurts me a lot. I am very ambitious, I see career as very important, but still I put her in first place. It hurts to see she doesn't. I understand people are busy. I am doing a double degree, being best in class, doing distance education at a second uni and running my own business. Yet I would always find time for her. I just don't see much effort of her to make time for me. Please give me advise, please. What can I do to make her behavior change? Or do I have to learn to handle it? Am I being childish for feeling lonely?

I have an Abitur average of 1.2, what is the GPA equivalent?

My brother just bought a new motorcycle and has a problem with the gearbox. When it shows to be in neutral it is in gear. The clutch seems to be working normally but when the neutral light is on it is still in gear and it wont go into second. The motorcycle is an Aprilia RS4 125. Is the gear lever not properly adjusted or is the gear box broken?

Well, again such a question but I would just like to know. I have been dating this girl, she now became my girlfriend. I really love her, and judging from my past experiences I think I finally found the perfect woman for me. Just one thing I would like to know: She has had bad experiences with relationships in the past, very bad, which I am a 100% sure is the reason for her being very though on the outside not wanting to get hurt again. On the inside however, she is very loving, caring and so on. Now, how do I get her protecting shell to crack? Over time it will eventually happen I guess, and I have seen her inside coming through at times, which makes me feel for her so much. But how do I get her to really trust me and take off this outside toughness? I know some might say a talk helps, but I tried and I am believing that actions speak louder than words. So anyone got a suggestion? Would be very much appreciated.

Please, people take this questions serious. I don't know what to do really, but I just don't have dreams anymore. No motivation and I feel totally powerless. Out of energy. There's nothing that inspires me anymore somehow. I have many hobbies, like playing music instruments and photography. But I just don't take pictures anymore nor play. I loved that before. But now it's all just gone. It's been like that for 3 month now. What can I do? Please help? Also I always had goals and a plan, dreams, but suddenly it's all so vague. It feels like seeing my own life from outside