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She rarely opens up emotionally?
Well, again such a question but I would just like to know. I have been dating this girl, she now became my girlfriend. I really love her, and judging from my past experiences I think I finally found the perfect woman for me. Just one thing I would like to know: She has had bad experiences with relationships in the past, very bad, which I am a 100% sure is the reason for her being very though on the outside not wanting to get hurt again. On the inside however, she is very loving, caring and so on. Now, how do I get her protecting shell to crack? Over time it will eventually happen I guess, and I have seen her inside coming through at times, which makes me feel for her so much. But how do I get her to really trust me and take off this outside toughness? I know some might say a talk helps, but I tried and I am believing that actions speak louder than words. So anyone got a suggestion? Would be very much appreciated.
Thanks for the answers. I am definitely sure she does not consider me as a friend only, as she calls me her boyfriend and holding hands/kissing is not really what friends do right?
Anyways, I will try my best and I am constantly trying to show her how much I care about her and love her. I guessed it takes time to build more trust, especially after she told me what happened in her last relationship. However, considering, she tells me things she wont even tell her best friend and she invited me meeting her family it seems trust is coming slowly. It makes me very happy to see her opening up slowly and getting happy :)
3 Antworten
- Anonymvor 9 JahrenBeste Antwort
I am the same way, I have a hard shell. Sometimes it just takes time. But actions speak louder than words. While telling her you wont hurt her is great, she will need to see it and you will need to build creditability when you say you wont. Like showing her you really care about her, doing little things like saying goodnight or that you miss her. Spending time together and maybe open up to her more might help?
- Anonymvor 9 Jahren
My bf was the same way and I just reassured him him that I wasn't going to cheat or hurt him and he's actions speak louder than words. I did so much for him, little things really, to show him that I really cared about him. It does take time though.
- vor 9 Jahren
I can relate- I was always the same way in my last relationship. I always smiled, and pretended everything was okay, even when my life around me crashed and burned. Nobody suspected a thing.
My (now ex, sadly) boyfriend had to really coax me into opening up with me, and over time I did. He was the only one I truly let inside, and told all my troubles too (I even confided in him the things I wouldn't tell my best friend).
Coming from a girl who is used to locking it all up, it can be very hard to just share emotions. You need to show her you love her, and truly care about helping her with her problems. Being there for her with kind words, kisses, and soft hugs was what made me open up.
