Phil

So basically, Im 20 years old and over the past year and half I've had on and off anxiety over my super average sized penis (5.5 inch fully erect measured from skin at base and about 4.5/4.6 around) average is about 5.1 inches measured same way apparently and so on, so I know I shouldn't really have anything to worry about.

However, last year I got super depressed with my first girlfriend over this. Ive taken my mind off it since and sometimes i don't worry at it all and laugh at how silly I am for worrying so much. However recently, Me and this super attractive girl have got to like each other and we kinda arranged to have sex next week haha. She then asked me jokingly if I have anything "big" and my heart kinda sunk and i played it cool saying im average and have nothing to brag about. She still wants my D though but since then, The anxiety has kicked in again and Im afraid it will prevent me from going ahead or that I will struggle to get it up on the day like with my first girlfriend. She will be my 2nd and first time in like over a year. How do i overcome all this? don't want to sound big headed, but for the sake of the argument, Im considered a pretty good looking guy, well built and attract stunners such as this girl and some have obviously had a few boyfriends who were probably bigger. However, this is the greatest insecurity of mine and it has prevented me from enjoying my late teens and now probably my twenties.

Has anyone else got this issue and overcome it?

Hey!

just released a new piano song and would really like honest feedback from strangers instead of family and friends:)

what can I improve? anything you think that is missing?

thanks!

https://soundcloud.com/philippcross/emotional-pian...

Beginning of July, I was in a serious car crash which lead to me having emergency operation and I have recovered fully now. It was a head on collision, both going about 50mph so all the injuries were mainly caused by the seatbelt. However, since then I keep getting this weird cracking sound in my chest whenever I stand up, do certain exercises such as running. It sounds strange like a thump inside the body and it's pretty loud and I was wondering if this could cause problems such as joint pains or something similar in the future? I mean I'm only 18 and I do lots of sport which will cause it to crack even more

Thanks

I am really self conscious about my looks and what bothers me the most is my face. i always think they are chubby even though i am very slim and athletic. In the mirror i always seem to look slim in the face and more masculine but in pictures like this i dont. i would really like to know from you guys and please be truthful i dont care.

by the way i look my worst in this as i just took it now after lying in bed all day

http://s1287.photobucket.com/user/mastercross12/me...

hey!

I bought dumbells and started lifting in September to get my arms stronger. I started off managing only 15 reps with 5 kilos! I got much stronger, moving to do the same amount but on 10. I then wanted to work my whole body so i joined the gym which i go to every 2 days at a steady routine and i have to say i like the results but i am not too impressed. I am 6 foot 17 years old and only have about 12 per cent body. I do about 2 miles running at the gym, 5 sets of bicep curls at 14kg, i work all my upper body, stomach etc. and my legs for about 80 mins. Eventhough i am getting much stronger in a small amount of time which i hoped for and a 6 pack is showing, i arent really getting that much bigger. I mean, after every workout i eat a healthy meals such as fish with lots of protein and 1 hur before bed a can of tuna. I also only drink water now and dont eat crap like sweets and fatty foods. My muscles have become more defined and such but i dont understand how i have become so much stronger without gaining much muscles. I in fact weigh less than i did 6 months ago. I dont know if i just dont notice the changes because i see myself every or if i am gaining muscles and losing fat which balances out or what.

any ideas on what the problem as and if this is normal? thanks

So I turned on my laptop today and the cursor keeps moving towards the top of the screen and then to the left hand corner. I even had it on yesterday and it worked fine and it has never done this. I did a full norton system scan and said it fixed all problems but it is still the same and it is very frustrating because it takes me ages to click on something. When I leave it for a while, it goes to normal but it seems like the more I use it the worse it gets. Has anyone else experienced this?

I do t know if its just my laptop or a virus. Can anyone please help?

Thanks

i never really thought about this as much as i do now, but how did everything start?

I mean, Everything has to have a beginning and nothing can have existed forever. Something must have started the "Big Bang", and something must have started that something, and that something. etc.

I get very confused and feel so small when i just think about this and how big the universe actually is.

Is this just something that no one will ever really know?

ok, im a 16 year old guy (nearly 17) and i have recently started college and i love it!

And in my tutorial and RE class there is this beautiful girl that i really really like. She has blue eyes, blonde hair, nice body and personality (my dream girl you could say).

I also think that she likes me because I always catch her looking at me, and when we look at each other, she quickly looks away and twiddles her hair.

However, I only see her 2 hours a week, so it is quite hard to get to know her.

I have also never had a proper girlfriend even though I am good looking, because I am quite shy and not that confident with attractive girls, but I really want to change this.

I already kind of have a plan to approach her after class but I'm not sure. Something like this:

"Hey, I don't know you that well, but I was wondering if you would like to hang out after college or during break sometime"

Then if all goes well, swap numbers or something.

It won't be exactly like that of course. I will also chat to her before I ask and act confident.

But do you think this will work? Or will she be scared off because we don't know each other?

I mean, if she likes me (which I am pretty sure of) all should go well right?

What do you think?

i mean, I'm a boy and i believe that life is much easier for guys. here's why:

Boys dont really have to care about their looks as much as girls

Girls have periods, boys dont

men can piss wherever they want whereas girls have to sit.

boys just get a girl pregnant and dont have to carry the baby for 9 months

guys dont have to buy stuff like tampons and stuff

boys are physically stronger than girls (self defence)

probably more jobs for boys? (construction and stuff like that) im not saying girls are stupid.

what do you think and why?

i mean, being a boy can also be hard. eg. having to ask girls out and having to work, but i just believe being a guy is easier.

i have looked everywhere but simply cant find it!

ok. so i have been on youtube for over 2 years now and have had many videos on. The only successful video i really made got about 12k views in 5 months. i was getting about 150-200 views a day before it got taken down because apparently it violated some rules. It got like 50 likes and no dislikes. However, now when i put up videos that i actually work hard for to make, they get like no views.

I currently make orchestral compositions and they are very good and sound pro, but they just dont get popular.

The only one that might get popular is the one i recently uploaded a few days ago which is on about 90 views.

any ideas on how to get them popular? because they are pretty good and i believe people will enjoy them if they listened to my stuff: /

This is the third composition i made using Cubase and i believe it is the best i have made so far. Could you guys please listen to it and please tell me some good things and bad things about it for future compositions?

the previous 2 were kind of military style songs. This is kind of Celtic influenced.

thanks!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y9BBQwUEQg4

i mean, Im a guy and i just wear normal baggy clothes and a t-shirt and dont care that much about what i look like. However, i see guys all the time with stupid skinny jeans and super tight clothes that look like womens clothes and with ear rings and super styles hair. I mean, where has the masculinity gone?! I would be ashamed to look like that. It doesnt even look good either.

Its as if males are just turning gay.

I look at pictures of men like 20 years ago and they actually look like men. What the hell happened?

Ok. So I'm a guy and I have just recently noticed that most of the girls that I find attractive and are my type look like my mother. Brown hair, curvy figure etc.

I mean, I'm not attracted to my mum, I just like girls like my mum for as long as I can remember.

Why is this? Is it just me or are there others like me too?

I remember when I was 5 maybe 6. And there was this girl I always thought about. I then let her borrow my eraser for 2 days. Hoping she would like me back. Lol.

When was yours??

ok. im 16 (nearly 17) and eversince i can remember, i have just worried about my eyes and going blind which is my biggest fear. when i was about 11, i always felt pain in the top of my left eye and thought about it so much. however, i then went to the eye doctors and they said my eyes are fine. I never felt it again.

then a year later, i started to see floaters in my eyes and i had a panic attack, thinking that i had cancer or something but i got it checked out and nothing was wrong. i still worried, looking into the sky to see these floaters and i would squint so i can see them better to see if there were an new ones. and when i would see a new one or think that i did i had another panic attack. I used to cry a lot.

This still happens to this day. I have had this OCD for 4-5 years and its driving me nuts. I would still squint and check for new floaters, even in public and people must think im stupid or something.

It used to be much worse but it still bugs me.

i mean, its like i know that there is nothing wrong with me but i still check and worry eve thoug ive been to the eye doctors 5 times in 4 years!

recently ive even worried about my heart, ears, my joints and even scared that i had just turned gay even though i knew that i wasnt and that i love girls. Its like my mind is making me think that and i cant control it. But my eyes annoy me the most.

How do I stop this obsession of thinking about going blind and squinting and all these other worries that i have had like being gay even though i have never been attracted to a guy and know that im not. Or at least something that makes me calm down?

Thanks!

I just dont want to live worrying all my life about some stupid things that arent true and will never happen.

I'm a 16 year old guy (nearly 17) and ever since I could remember, I have been very interested in war and just stuff that blows up (I know it sounds stupid).

I mean, I just love setting off fireworks and going to battle fields and playing war games. Even when I went to Berlin, the only thing that I loved the most was the fact that there was a huge battle there and all seeing all the bullet holes in the buildings.

It's like an interest that I was born with just like girls. however, I never intend to harm anyone, so don't assume that.

Not all men are like this but pretty much most are.

why is this? Is it because men used to be very violent and it just evolved?

Thanks

Ok. So here's the deal, every time I talk to a very attractive girl or a girl that I like I get very nervous and haven't a clue what to say. If an attractive girl starts talking to me, my mind just goes blank and I just look like an idiot. I am quite an attractive 16 year old guy and this is just preventing me from getting a girlfriend. However, when girls that aren't that good looking talk to me, I just have loads to say and can just talk to them naturally. Therefore I get unattractive girls liking me more than the pretty ones.

Its like I was born not being good with girls.

I even try to pretend the hot girl is just not that attractive but I still can't come up with anything to say.

Any advice on how I could become less nervous and boost my confidence?

Thanks!

Ok. So I have started lifting weights about a week ago to gain chest, back and arm muscles. And after every workout, my left arm is really sore and my right feels fine. My right arm is stronger than the left and when I do curls on each arm, I stop until I can't continue which is about 16 on right and 13 on left, so I do as much as I can on both arms. My right arm hurts and feels tensed for about 10 mins and is then fine, whilst my left continues like this.

Why is this?

Do I need to do more on my right? Because I'm worried it wont grow

Thnx!

I'm 16 years old (nearly 17) and I have realised that I am not as turned as much by porn and stuff as i used to.

I mean, inam still very attracted to women. But when I was about 13/14, I got turned on straight away as soon as I saw a picture of breasts or a hot woman on tv. I also watched A LOT of porn an used to masturbate about twice a day. So could this be the reason?

I an also very far into puberty.

And by all means, i know I am definitely not attracted to men so dont say that I am turning gay.

Does or did anyone else experience this?

Thanks!