when does it stop hurting?

I find it helpful to read poems about child loss. It has helped me heal and accept the fact that my baby is...not with me. It's been 2 years, and there is still pain, but you can make it easier on you. I hope you find this helpful, good luck!

Hey Char,

I'm 15 years old and i lost my mother when i six due to cancer, so I guess I'm in opposite position to you right now.

it's been 9 years and I still miss her everyday.

I don't have a daughter so i can't imagine what it must be like to lose her.

Are you in therapy? I did therapy for a little bit and it helped me realize a lot about myself and how to deal with it.

losing someone is like having hunger pangs, they come and go and they'll hit you unsuspectedly. it lessens sometimes but it comes back stronger later.

You never really got to know her at only 3 months and you probably feel like you have some part of blame that your carrying around of her death?

You probably won't ever be able to let her go fully but you'll learn how to live with the pain and you'll learn how to deal with it until you barely remember she's gone.

it's only been two months.

i think in around a year, you begin to feel better, it does sound like a long time but everyone goes through losing someone.

You really do need to let her go, there's nothing you can do but move forward with your life and learn how to cope with this new pain.

You'll have other daughters and sons and children with your boyfriend and it sounds like you have great people supporting you.

i'm so sorry for your loss and I hope that you get over this bump in the road.

if you want to contact me for any reason, although i'm only 15, my email is :

honeybunches279@yahoo.com

I am so sorry for your lose dear. Those people telling you to get over need to go get stuffed. You lost your child and you can grieve as long as you need to. I lost my son at almost 6weeks old. He died in my arms. it has been 3yrs and I still miss him. If you need a shoulder I am here. I know I am a stranger but I have been were you are. mummieeva@yahoo.com

It simply never stops hurting. You just have to cope with the pain and understand what has happened and accept it. Once you do that it will get better over time.. I've never had kids but my niece died, its been over a year now and it still hurts..

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