Steph D

My husband and I will be ttc our 6th child this summer. Before we always told we were expecting as soon as we could. Nobody has ever been happy for us really. The closest they came was when i told my MIL our 5th was on the way she said " As long as you are happy" Turns out she lied and really resented me for having a 5th. Sadly our 5th child passed away at 5 1/2 wks old. My MIL and several others have made a point to say many times." your not having more right?". For a long time we said no way. We did not want to try or even think of another baby. But the last few months we have changed minds. Our youngest starts kindergarten this year and with me being 33 I want to have another before risks get even higher for issues. Since nobody in husband family( I have no family left alive) will be happy how long should we wait to tell? Should I just wait til people ask questions? How should I tell them? Is just making a Facebook post and letting them see it there mean or rude? I truly want to get to enjoy this pregnancy since it will be my last for sure(I will be getting tubes tied same day baby is born).

I will try to keep this short. I am a 32yr old married mom. My children are 13yr old girl,9yr old boy,7yr old boy, and 4yr old girl. Two years ago today(Sept 23rd 09) I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy. I felt done having kids and happy. Sadly October 31st 2009 he passed away at home in my arms. We had alot of issues after that and did not know until February(2 days before my birthday) the cause of death. It was bronchopneumonia. I went through a very rough time as I hated God and many other people. I swore I did not want anymore kids. But last summer those thoughts changed as I healed a little. I feel the desire to have a baby very strongly. I feel like there is one more baby for me. I do not want a baby to replace him. No child can replace him. But I feel the urge very strongly. My husband is very scared to have another as he worries we could lose another baby. He said no for awhile.Now says he is not ready yet. I try not to push him and just joke about it. But I feel like my clock is ticking and I worry he will not be ready til it is to late. I worry that we will not have one and I will resent him. I pray everynight that he will change his mind. I am so torn and there is nobody here around me who has lost a infant and then had more kids. Do I wait and hope he changes his mind or give up?

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TTC after lose of an infant?

I lost my son last Halloween to Bronchopneumonia. He was 5 1/2 wks old. He was my 5th child and we jokingly called him the tie breaker baby as we had 2 of each til he came along. I did not ever think I would want more kids. Nobody could replace my little Carrot. But as of late I have been wanting another child. I want a child to love and care for. I feel cheated out of that experience by my son passing away. I am ready now to try for a child. But my husband is not. I am not trying to pressure him at all but I feel a need to get pregnant soon because I worry about risks and complications as I get older(i am 31). Has anyone gone through anything similar to this? Did anyone have to deal with family members who would not be happy if you had more after your baby passed away?

Do you chances of being approved for adoption/fostering lower if Child services has been in your life? In October 2009 my 5week old son passed away and in the state of Georgia Child services has to look into things when a infant dies at home. My house was messy(what parent of 5 with a newborn is not). No charges were filed and in Febuary we found out why our son passed(bronchopneumonia). It has always been my dream to foster and adopt a sibling group when my current kids are older. Does having Child services investigate us kill my chances?

I am 30yrs old and currently pregnant with my 5th child. I promised my husband I would get my tubes tied. But now am having second thoughts. My periods are very heavy and painful. I worry they will get worse. I also worry because they will not do it until baby is 6wks old and have 3 older kids that have to be walked to the bus(bus stop s down a very steep hill that i have to walk up on way home twice a day). I will have no help recovering from surgery. Every time I try to talk to him all he says is " you promised". I am worried he will leave me if I do not do this. Everyone is pushing me to do this and something in back of my mind says not to. I am so scared of surgery. I do not want more kid and am 100% sure. For personal reasons an IUD is not an option.

I am 30yrs old and currently pregnant with my 5th child. I promised my husband I would get my tubes tied. But now am having second thoughts. My periods are very heavy and painful. I worry they will get worse. I also worry because they will not do it until baby is 6wks old and have 3 older kids that have to be walked to the bus(bus stop s down a very steep hill that i have to walk up on way home twice a day). I will have no help recovering from surgery. Every time I try to talk to him all he says is " you promised". I am worried he will leave me if I do not do this. Everyone is pushing me to do this and something in back of my mind says not to. I am so scared of surgery. I do not want more kid and am 100% sure. For personal reasons an IUD is not an option.

I have this over whelming urge to have another child. So much so that it depresses me not to have more kids. I have 4 children now ages 10-1yr. My husband thinks I am crazy and obviously i can not have a baby without him agreeing(unless i trick him which i can not do). He thinks 4 kids is enough. He worries that the more kids we have the less love the others will feel like they are getting. My urge is so strong i even dream about it. Last night I even saw my mom holding two babies wrapped in pink to me(my mom died when i was a teenager). I am crying myself to sleep and it hurts me so much. Long ago my husband and i agreed on 6 kids and i feel like 6 is my number. AM I insane? I am 29 so i could have time. Should I just wait and hope my husband changes his mind?

I am very confused and told myself to ask here for help/advise. I have a puppy dilemma. My 8 month old puppy does not seem to be fitting into my house well. She is a half Lhasa Apso half jack Russell terrier. She is food aggressive. Tries to bite my 4yr old and 1yr old if they have food or touch her when she is eating. She will not house train for pooping for anything.I can take her out for an hour and second she comes in she goes on the floor. She jumps up and knocks the baby over daily. My husband thinks that I am just not trying. I have had many dogs as a child and teen and never ever had a dog that would bite like she does. A few months ago she bite my toe and tore a huge gash in it. All i did was walk into a room. I think she needs a new home with no kids or older one. My kids are 10,6,4,and 1yr. My 10yr old is fine with her. But my sons she runs around nipping/biting them and jumping up on them and scratching them. I can not afford to have her go to a trainer either. I hate her to have to live outside or in a kennel all the time.

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