How do you get your kids to clean up weather they are 10 or 21?

take away the 10 year olds video games and tell him/her they have to work to get them back...or some thing they relly like.the 21year old tell them they need to work or yoll kick there sorry@$$ on the curb

A counsellor once explained the following to me, it makes sense.

If you have a messy child and you go into their room and say "Jeez, what a mess, you are such an untidy person", then the next day "Bloody hell you are so messy" and so on the psychie of the child picks up the following information "I am a messy person", since this message is being re-inforced day in day out.

You can try a little mental trickery, next time you walk in to a messy bedroom "Jeez, this place is a mess, which is strange because you are usually such a tidy kid" or "Your room never usually gets this untidy, you are normally so organized" and so the psychie of the child picks up the following "I am a tidy kid, I´m organised". It is also very difficult for a child to argue with you about the state of their room when you have just made such a positive comment about them.

This works wonders as the child then starts to question themself everytime they make a mess because you have planted a little seed in their brain that tells them that they are not normally messy.

My daughter is eight and helps with everything, not always willingly, but from a very young age, if she did not put her toys away, they got taken off her, for a week, then a month. TV and phone priviledges can also be taken away. Treats can be taken away. If you said you'd take them out somewhere and they dont keep their end of the bargain, refust to take them saying you are too tired as you had to do their chores. Not only must they help out, they must do so in your timeframe, not theirs. Reward them and praise them a lot when they do do it.

I have created a chore board. All of my children's names are on it and I have a daily chore for each one of them to do. No one does the same chore every day or they would get tired of it. They each switch chores daily. Every one knows what their job is for that day because it is mapped out for the entire week. So I don't constantly have to tell them what to do they already know. I might have to tell them "You didn't do your chore today" and they go to the board and look at what their chore was for that day and then they do it. It works very well for me being that I have nine children age ranges 18 years to 5 months. Maybe you could try that.

My parents paid my two brothers and me to do it. We had a list of chores and we had to do the same thing everyday for a week and then it would change.

Try and have rewards for the cleaning. We also couldnt come out of our rooms until they were clean. So we had incentive to clean..lol

This has to be taught growing up. 10 or 21 is too late.

At 10, they must. At 21, they can move out.

Definately praise. When they do something around the house, whether you asked them to or not, praise them for doing it. They will relate it to being a more rewarding activity.

I wish I new I try just about everything even leaving the room alone Now you can not get in the room

very ez question lol just tell them that you need help if they dont help then resort to a bit more as some one previously stated takeing toys and such