SomeGuy09

So I’ve been dating somebody for a few months. We recently decided to get serious and I took them on a trip (I paid for everything) ever since then there are constant needs for money and material things. I’m already bringing this person to live at my apartment without any preconditions because they’ve lost their job due to covid. I could see if they needed little things but this person is now asking for designer items and recently asked for a large amount of money to complete the move from their city to mine. Something doesn’t seem right. Tell me I’m not crazy. 

So my dad is not supportive of my sexual orientation at all. He always starts every visit with "I hate the fact that you're gay but I still love you". This makes it very hard to be around him as I feel like I have to change/censor who I am to spend time with my own father. Several times he has cancelled visits for which I've bought expensive flight tickets- sometimes within hours of when I was supposed to fly - my aunt confided in me that his girlfriend is even more homophobic than he is and that she doesn't want me around. My dad is in his 70s so I want to spend time with him while he is still alive but censoring myself to the point where I can't even talk about who I'm dating is putting a huge toll on me. The reason I censor myself is because he will get VIOLENTLY angry and scream and or yell at me for even mentioning my boyfriend's name. Today he called my boyfriend a racially charged name for which I hung up with my dad and lead me to seeking help here. My dad has a history of making me so miserable in my relationships that I end up breaking things off to spare the other guy from having to deal with it. I love my dad but I don't think I should sacrifice my happiness and hide who I am to make him feel better. I am who I am and nothing will change it. I feel like if he has this much of a problem then he should just cease contact or I should. Thoughts?

So I used to date this guy back in 2005 went ok for a couple of years and we broke up and I Moved back to the west coast. We reconnected back in 2013 and have had this weird on again off again fling. I actually really care for him (love) very deeply but he is not into commitment at all and is very polyamorous (which I am not). Since then I’ve gotten very sick with a life threatening illness all of my friends believe he does have feelings for me but doesn’t want to say anything and I don’t want to say anything because I’m afraid I’d lose him forever. Key reasons being he’s the first and only person I fell in love with at first sight, there’s great chemistry and even in my worst times he makes everything feel better. However one of my friends said I should tell him so that he can say no and that I can have some closure and pursue people who want to settle down. What to do??  

Background I’m an adult child of an alcoholic parent who is divorced from my father. She drinks heavily for about 12 hours each day everyday. She forgets birthdays, graduations, etc. didn’t go to her own parents funerals and is so detached from me I sometimes wonder where the mother I had as a child has gone. It’s painful that a relative a blood relative that is would forget milestones and refuses to be there when I need her. I was just given some medical news which required somebody to be close to help me with my recovery which she immediately refused to do. The only reason I haven’t cut her out of my life is because I feel one day she will hit rock bottom and won’t have anyone to turn to since she’s alienated our entire family and has no friends.

I’ve been talking to somebody in Manila for two years dating for one. Recently I went to Manila to see them and everything was great up until the end of the trip. Then I was requested to entertain the whole extended family for dinner, then came a family medical emergency where money was urgently needed, etc. am I overthinking? Something doesn’t seem right.

So I've been online dating this guy for a while. We chat all the time and video chat all the time. So I know he's real. He recently asked me to send him a small amount of money ($30) to help pay for his final exam fee because his uncle isn't supporting him now that he's out (openly gay). All of my friends say $30 isn't like he's asking you for $500 or $1000 and the communications seem to be genuine. I guess I'm just looking for re-assurance?