My friend exposes too much cleavage...?

Question

my best friend is insecure because she's a bit big, so she shows off her large chest. call me a prude, but she's pretty young to be showing off her girls. myself and the rest of her friends (who are all flatter-and skinnier- than her) tell her everyday, try to joke about it, and threaten to buy her high-necked tops, but she just blows me off, annoyed or amused. whenever i mention my friend to my mom, she goes off in a rant about how low her tops are, and frankly, it's embarrassing. and the most annoying part is, she's always talking and complaining about how so and so was staring at her boobs.
because i know i'll get useless comments about this, i want to clarify that i'm not jealous. i like being able to run without jiggling.

Anonym · Accepted Answer

My guess is that she doesn't feel attractive, and she knows others don't find her attractive due to her size. So she is trying to get attention by wearing low tops to show of her chest. So if someone is looking, either be it attraction or just surprise, she converts it into an ego-feeder. Everyone need to feed their ego, it's a natural and healthy behavior in humans. 
The worst thing here is that she is probably aware of what she is doing. But she doesn't know how else to get any attention. Most likely this is a phase she will pass on her own, but you could always try to confront her about it. But do it in a calm private place, and be polite and show that you worry about her, ask why she is doing the things she does(play a bit dumb and see is she comes out). If it does not help, ask her directly if she is doing it for attention. Then just take it from there, be supportive:)

Good luck!

J C · Answer

Maybe you just gotta tell her straight up, like without joking about it or threatening her with high cut tops. Like just sit her down and tell her it bothers you that she dresses that way because she's got a great personality and she should let that show instead of her chest. But just be nice about it, like you said she's insecure so she could use a friend.

Millie · Answer

I don't really see ur actual question..? But. Sounds like she's just insecure n she needs something to feel good/ proud of. I've had many friends that "complain" about certain things when they're really happy they got that attention. Because ur friend is big she may feel like she needs to compensate her insecurity by showing off her girlies to make herself feel somewhat better! U can continue to express ur concern but if this is what makes her feel better about her body she's not going to stop.. :/

mary J · Answer

i wish i didnt jiggle
;lol
no really
but yeah i wount wear low tops
but if she wants 2 she is prob a despret ho
just sayin
let her c the result of this 4 her self:D
lol

jennifer · Answer

Tell your friend again about it and if she does not listen, leave her to wear her low tops and face the possible consequences of exposing her chest to that degree.........

Anonym · Answer

Buy her a christmas present of a turtle neck sweater

&lt;&#92;&#39;~Inspired~&#39;/&gt; · Answer

If she's your friend, tell her. If it bothers you, tell her. But really, I don't see why it's that big of a deal. I mean, you make your choices, she makes hers.

? · Answer

Get a roll of duct tape and while she's sleeping wrap it around her boobs!)

My friend exposes too much cleavage...?

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