Do I deserve a second chance?

Question

My girlfriend dumped me about 2 and a half months ago.  We were together for over a year and a half and she was my first love.  After a month and a half I went no contact with her and just broke it the other day. When she first broke up with me she didn't give me any reasons as to why.  She just said she didn't feel the same.  Well after I began talking to her again she told me what she really felt.  

She told me that there were a lot of things I did that bothered her.  Like how I hated all her music and how I would argue with her over stupid things some times.  She never told me that thee things bothered her because she didn't want to make me feel bad. Well after holding everything inside eventually it made her start to resent me a little bit until the point where he decided to break things off.  

So here I am now. I still love her with all my heart and I still want her back.  I realized some of the problems while I was on my own and how I can change them. And if we were to communicate better and if she told me if somethings bothering her I can fix it and I think we can really make a relationship work again.  The problem is she doesn't want to. I never cheated on her. I never lied to her. I never did anything to intentionally hurt her. I treated her as well as I could have. So do I deserve a second chance?

mJc · Accepted Answer

When a woman makes up her mind about ending a relationship - she is usually very serious and has already given the guy all the chances she could.  She doesn't want to be with you any longer - and I realize that fact is a painful one to face.  But, hon, it's time to move on.  You WILL fall in love again, and this past relationship will help you in your next relationship.  For now, keep yourself busy and stop all contact with the ex.  Do something you'd never have considered doing before - go on a trip, volunteer, play a sport, take a class, get a moonlighting job... staying busy and doing something out of the ordinary will help you move on.  And the sooner you move on, the sooner you'll find the woman you are truly meant to be with.

Leanna Dahn · Answer

How old are you two? When in a relationship at a young age you grow up and change little by little. Also you start being more yourself with the person and you get to know the person your in a relationship with better. This can bring you closer, or apart. Feelings change, people change, life changes and sometimes you need to just move on. Of coarse your very upset and hurt but you can't change someones feelings. If you have already confronted her about the situation, leave her alone. It is better that way because she will eventually feel anoyed. Hope I helped:/

Anonym · Answer

It depends on what the person did on the first "chance". If they raped or hurt someone intentionally or anything else extreme, they do not deserve nor can earn a second chance. If someone messed up in a situation in a minor way, they deserve a second chance because then they have the oppurtunity to make things better.

hailie · Answer

Yea from all the things you've said in your previous questions it does sound like you were overall a good boyfriend but its unfortunately up to her to decide if she gives you a second chance or not. I'm in a similar situation as you right now with my ex and we did get back together for a couple of months but broke up again. Since the second time round didn't seem to work out for him (everything seemed fine to me) i doubt there will be a third. So i guess my advice would be, don't pressure her into it, if she ever wants to come back to you she will when she's ready. I kinda wish i'd just waited and stayed just friends, he hadn't ruled out getting back together but evidently when we did it was too soon.

? · Answer

I'm sorry, but No.  Relationships built on a second chance have a 50-50 success rate.  If it is a third chance, 10%.  It will hurt more and more as it goes on.

Anonym · Answer

Well you should deserve an other chance and if you know anything about her music tastes try too listen too some songs see if you like just a few or something like that.

Eliot · Answer

yeah you defiantly do but you really cant change her mind. you can still try ask her out get on your knees if you have to thats pretty much all you can do if she says no then you're out of luck.
but after that dont ask her out anymore or she'll probably call you a stalker to her friends.

Anonym · Answer

I think you do, but sometimes, once a woman's feelings have changed, you can't just change them back.  She may just be over the whole thing.  Sorry.

Anonym · Answer

keep going, maybe someday you and her will be together again

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