How long does it take for an ex to come knocking?

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My ex decided she just didn't feel the same about me anymore about a month ago.  This hurt me badly.  I really didn't see it coming at all.  We went out for about 1.5 months.  The breakup itself was slightly drawn out.  I told her how much I loved her and basically everything I could for about a week until she made it official.  After that I went one week without talking to her, hoping she'd change her mind.  Didn't work.  She messaged me after the week and we actually ended up fighting about the breakup.  Obviously not a great move on my part, but I really wasn't thinking straight at all.

After that I tried my best to not talk to her.  She would message me every few days.  The chats were pretty much her saying something like 'I like this TV show' and I would reply 'That's good'.  They always ended about 2 minutes after they began.  Another week or two went by when we actually talked about the breakup.  I forget how exactly it started, but the major quotes were her saying "I just want to be friends right now, nothing more".  I then replied "I can't ever be just a friend to you.  I can try and be a friend now, but I will always want something more".  She follows up with "Well you better not act on it then".  

I think I talked to her one more time since that talk.  I kept it light hearted and avoided talking about how horrible I feel or how much I want her back.  It was only a brief chat anyway.  Since then I took the advice of my friends and family who said that I need to vanish.  I need to make it so she will never see me, online or in person.  Like I dropped off the face of the earth.  Today is day 8 since I implemented this.  I haven't slipped up yet, but oh my god it's so tempting just to try and message her or call her.  

So my real question is, how long is it going to take for her to come calling.  I figure even if I don't appear online or in person anywhere she still has my number.  She can call me if she wanted to.  I know that I'm supposed to be no contact with her to try and move on, but it's been a month and I still can't.  I love her with all my heart and I really believe she is the one for me.  I told her I would always love her forever and I mean to keep that promise.  So how long should I expect to wait until she tries to contact me.  And even if she does, do I have a realistic shot of her wanting to get back together sometime in the near future?  Not immediately, but like within a I'd say two or three months.

smkeller · Accepted Answer

Give it a month, if that doesn't do it then she really just doesn't care that much.

David Juner · Answer

well im in the same boat as the guy who posted, but my relationship was for 3 years.. my overprotective behavior and asking her 1000 questions when she would go out finally drove her away, did the whole flower thing brought her flowers to her work and even in person she looked me in the eye and said she didnt belive that i would change my ways and that it was over, i would be able to leave her alone for a while its just that we have a cruise planned in less than a month i havent tried contacting her in about a week, last i txted was just hey hope ur alright, i need to know what to do with our cruise...still no reply after about 4 days..  we both have money invested in it its either we go or we lose our $$ and also ive asked her if its over can she drop off my spare set of keys to my apartment and any belongings i have and for her to get hers if its done but no reply again anyone have any ideas for me?? quatro41@yahoo.com

Anonym · Answer

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Johnny M · Answer

I don't understand how you can hold on to her after she left you. I know it hurts but would you want her back so she can leave you at a drop of a dime again? Let her be. Find someone that really deserves you. Be a man, grow a pair and show her that she made the mistake for leaving you.

Anonym · Answer

If you keep going down this path you will realize that you are just hurting yourself. You can continue to hope that she'll come back, but it will just prolong your pain of getting over the breakup. Breaking up really does suck, but you will find love again. You just have to learn to let go in order to move on and find someone who will care about you in return.

? · Answer

Who says she even will come back?  You were only together or a month and half...get over it.

Evelyn · Answer

6 months if it was a serious relationship.3 weeks if the relationship was less than a year.

Mofojo · Answer

live life, be confident, have fun, and show her that your having fun without being dependent on her, be independent!

How long does it take for an ex to come knocking?

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