what to do about my in laws?

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My husband works out of town during the week and comes only home on the weekends. I stay at home with 4 children oldest beeing 8 and youngest just turned 2. His family does not call once to check on how me or the kids are doing. The moment he gets home his phone wont stop and his brothers start showing up with their girlfriends from noon to dawn meaning till we literally go to bed. I just would like some alone time with just my husband and my kids. his brother even comes along on outings with the family and all they do is drink and i get to watch the kids and drive. This has been going on for years and gotten worse since his other brother moved back from AZ to Cali. I had told him several times that i would like some alonetime with him and all he tells me what he is supposed to do when they knock on our door . He doesnt want to be an a.....hole. 

We also had an incident where both got so drunk they got in to a fight and my husband punched in our wall and broke a window . I had asked his brother not to come over for the purpose of drinking anymore and it lastet two weeks and he just got all drunk again last sunday.

how can i get this to stop or at least have my husband tell them not to come over so often. I would not mind once a month but this is to much for me and i am getting tired of it. I also must ad that he basically raised his bro. since he is the oldest and his mom had to work while the dad was sitting around the house and getting drunk.

? · Accepted Answer

If you can help your husband stop drinking that would be the best solution for the whole family
sounds like they like to get together just for the sake of drinking 

Alcohol = evil

lala · Answer

His family is not the problem ;; BOOZE is the problem Your husband and his brothers are alcoholic ; that why your husband is putting up with all this crap > What about you ?? Well you have to put your feet down and warn your husband of the consequence of his behaviour ; if doesn't get help for his alcohol problem > Also its very hard on your children ; seeing each weekend a full house of drunk people ; but I am afraid you are not ready to end this dysfunctional family

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Your husband has to man up and talk to his family.

They want to be in his life 24/7 and don't realize he ALREADY HAS A FAMILY..you and the children.
Plus he's out of town so now is the time for family time, not them.

Put the phone on the answering mode. Don't pick up. 

If they come over, don't run and hide. Have hub tell them he just got back home and needs time to spend with his family. Can you call and let me know when you are coming. When you have the machine on, and they call, they can leave the number and your hub can tell them when to come.

And if they DON'T get a phone call back, that means keep your butts away.

Enough said.

Amen.

Trevorz here · Answer

Oh God, this all sounds so dreadful!  4 children being subjected to this type of behavior?  
Listen, you tried to talk to him about it and you would think that he'd love to spend time with his family after being gone all week.  His behavior says a lot about his feelings about his family.
If he isn't interested I don't think you can change him.
Why don't you suggest that you move the entire family near where his job is during the week so that he can come home every single night to raise his family.
Then, his family will have to drive to visit him.
Good luck.

what to do about my in laws?

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