How would YOU handle this one??

Tell him to suck it up and stop whining! DOesn't he know that these kind of jealous rages turn women off?

Please tell me you don't really believe the BS that you told him. If you really think the tattoo artist wouldn't nail you in a NY minute, then I have some swamp land to sell you. A "female dr's"...LOL

He is not being childish, he is tell you how he feels. If you don't like that fine, but don't put him down (and that is what you are doing). It only makes you seem "childish".

If you want to get a tramp stamp go for it, but be prepared for this to cause a permanent problem between the two of you. You seem immature for your advanced age, the whole it's my money (not that it really is) so I can do it if I want is a childish attitude. After all it's his money and now that he isn't giving it to you, you are mad...like a little kid.

you should wait till he can go with you that way he can see that it's not what he thinks. That what i would do. That way it doesn't cause a strain in your relationship over a damn tattoo which is not worth it. i mean i'm sure you love him very much and sometimes in life we have to either accept things the way they are or find a way around it, find a solution, or a happy medium for the sake of not fighting. i tink you will be making a big mistake if you do it without finding that happy medium.

helpful?? i hope so.

oh and about the control ting you need to re-evaluate your relationship in my opinion. but i could be wrong. i don't think so though.

Jealousy, even if you downplay it by calling it childish, is really about control. It's not love, it's not devotion, it's about controlling another person. Your boyfriend has self esteem issues and makes you the brunt of them. You have far more problems than just the tattoo but as long as you micro manage them I guess you'll be fine with it. I think you are going ahead with the tattoo as a way of trying to take some control of your life back from him. Sooner or later his controlling nature is going to increase into harmful, even dangerous ways as you assert yourself more.

Why get a tatoo in the first place? Just out of curiousity.

Anyway, your b/f sounds controlling. be careful that that quality doesn't put you in a bad situation. As for the tatoo, it's your body, not his. Remember that esp. if you are thinking about spending the rest of your life with him.

Is the tat or your boyfriend more important to you? If this is your way of taking a stand then great, but he's most likely not the guy for you. If you love and respect somebody and lets say they say for example "I hate when you wear yellow, it really is upsetting to me" then you wouldn't wear yellow right? I know that's a lame example...but you get the point. It's all about respecting your partner's feelings even though it may seem ridiculous to you. If you really don't care that he's upset then it's time to let him go and move on. It's not about the ink...it's bigger than that.

He just needs to be more secure in himself. He should come and watch and if he thinks something is going on unprofessional the artist could get in trouble. That artist has probably seen much more than bellies on girls and could care less. He would feel better about it if he came as well.

Ask him to come with you if he doesn't like it so much!

You just want the tattoo! How else would you get it done?

Maybe you could se if there are any female artists at the place!

First, if the only way you can pay for it is to borrow money, you don't need it.

Second, just how much control over you and your decisions are you going to let him have?

Ask him if he wants to come along with you for the tattooing. That way he can rest assured that you're not being touched up too much.

I might look around for a female tattoo artist or choose a different placing for the tattoo.