GuruGuru (The Windmill Guy)

Now as I"ve posted before, this ex girlfriend whom I've tried time and again to get out of my head, has come from out of nowhere and once again is trying to set me up with her friend. Now she has tried this before, two years ago before me and my ex eventually started dating, leading to my downfall afterwards. Back then I told her I wasnt interested in her friend because I was more interested in her (My ex).

Since our fallout, we had tried to re establish our friendship, but I decided to cut her off from my circle, due to emotional stress. After a while my ex got herself a new man, had bought a house with him, and is ready to move in together. Yet I still thought of her, foolishly. Fast forward to months now, and she finds a way to communicate with me, and tells me that same friend of hers from that time two years back, wants to get to know me and possibly hook up.

Its been two years since our initial break up, but like i said before, I still thought of her, couldnt let her go despite my desicion to cut her loose as her friend. Now she pops back up again and wants me to meet her friend, again. Her friend had sent me a friend request on facebook, and I accepted. She is in my opinion, far more attractive than my ex I got to say. But I'm not sure if she knows anything about me and my ex gf's past relationship. Should I give this new friend a chance, and risk possibly seeing my ex from time to time? Should I also try yet again to re-establish my friendship with my ex, risking possible emotional stress, in the event me and her friend do get together?

As I've said, its been two years, Letting go of my ex has been hard and emotional, especially since she's moved on for the best. Now it seems she wants to help me out by bringing her friend and me together. Honestly, I am scared, but also optimistic about a new opportunity. What advice should I take? Should I try her friend out, or should I move along? I need serious answers only. Thank You

A collection notice has been sent to our home under a name that both my brother and father share. The client is from Movie Gallery, a now defunct video rental establishment. The amount is for 88.00 dollars. I dont recall my brother ever renting a movie or game from that place, even back when it went went under a different name of Video City. I myself have paid late fees but under my account.

As for my father, I have no knowledge of him ever going into that place to make a rental. He moved out of town back in 1997. I have no communication with him (we are not on speaking terms), so i cant ask about any late fees if he's ever rented their before. This sickens me, because my brother has never made a rental, he has no credit anyways, and why if any of us had a late fee, didnt movie gallery/video city ever gave us any kind of notification before?

I contacted the collection agency and gave them a valid number to reach my father. Again i received a letter from an the collection agency. I do not have an address for him however. Should I dispute this claim with them, seeking proof of what is actually being owed and why? Its been more than six years since i myself made a movie rental and by my account name, not the names of either my father or brother on the collection claim.

I'm a 33 year old single man, with bad luck. I was born at 3AM, November 3rd, 1976. I have a difficulty letting things go. I have a two year long infatuation with a Sagitarius girl, whom i used to date and cant get out of my head. She is happily engaged, just bought a new house and is moving in with her new man. Jealousy resides within me, and envy. Our relationship was just not ment to be. But how I think of her...

I am at my lowest, its been this way the whole year. Moving on is difficult, for I work with her mother. My energy levels are always negative, cant meet anyone new. So how the hell Am I supposed to channel my feelings into something more positive and discover my unknown passion? Why do we scorpions seem to suffer the most? I seem to be the one that has inflicted so much pain and misery on myself for my poor choices, including going after a difficult relationship, which ultimatley failed.

What new steps should i take? What signs do I need to look out for in the coming days, weeks, and months? Fellow scorpios, I need your help!

Currently I am in the process of house hunting. I already own a home, but its occupied by three people including me. I am trying to move out to live on my own (Finally). I did a recent credit check back in april, it was good, but back then i wasnt interested in owning a new home.

I have a steady job, and make about 2,000 per month. I have a car payment and a small debt to pay to a bank loan (around 1,500 dollars). So my question is, is it possible for a mortgage company to give a loan without having the required 20% to buy a new house? Should i refinance my current property or get an equity loan? The other two current home occupents will remain in that house and carry on the payments there. If anyone has any suggestions or experience, let me know.

By the way this would be my second time being a home owner, the first time i was very young, and might have missed something. My current situation with the home im living in is fine, but i just want to get out, get my own place and go solo.

So like twice this year, and a few times over the last year and a half, I have dreamt of a girl who I used to be friends with, and Infatuated with to add to that. Two summers ago we started talking and we began to show an absolute interest in each other. We would go out to concerts and plan for more to come. Things didnt work out in the fall of that year, Seems she's been playing with me all along since she stopped communicating with me all of a sudden then appeared at a friends party with another guy, sitting on his lap and all. So after I Verbally lashed out at her in a drunken rage, it was all over.

Within the next few months, we seemed to have re-worked our friendship, and communicated for a few months more, even hinting of a new possible relationship. However, this was not to be, memories of her treachery continued to haunt me, so I sensed she knew all along it wasnt going to be her way this time, and now she's found herself another guy to be with.

We have not spoken personally for many months and its tough because I work with her mother, whom I'm good friends with, and when I see her, I pretend to ignore her which makes it akward, because she doesnt seem to care if I'm there or not. Even though I have moved on, thoughts of her continue to fill my head, now worse the past several months due to her presence in my dreams...

These dreams, I count 4 in total, have gone from me making love to her, although we never had sex. second dream about her dying, not sure how but it was mentioned verbally by someone, third dream it was her in a picture in a pose I liked very much, though i never actually saw her in that pose, and fourth, she was inside a room with the door closed and locked, but her voice could be heard, and this house i did not recognize.

I'm supposing the reason she now appears in my dreams, is probably a hint that we might actually have a future meeting of sorts, like maybe her coming forward with some truth perhaps? In real life I've concluded that she's not even worth another shot, what with her current unknown relationship and my anger towards her, but why does she have to intrude my dreams?! I made up my mind many months ago that I'm going to move on. dreaming of her is not making it easy....Why is dreaming of her even when she aint there brings up emotions? especially since I now seem to hate her for her bad girl ways.

Sorry for the long story, but i thought it would be interesting for some to understand the real life story between me and her, and why my dreams of her could mean something significant or not.

Need help choosing between Doc Martens or Mark Nason Boots. Both are very distinctive. Martens seem geared towards the Punk and Indie scene, while Nasons appeal to Rock Stars and Metal heads. Im more of a Metal Head but also love the Old Punk Scene from the early 80's. Nasons sell well over 200.00 to 400.00 dollars while martens sell around 200.00 even. I would buy two pairs, one of each, but my budget will only allow one pair for now...I just recently updated my spring and summer jeans wardrobe, mainly Boot Fit pants by Levis and Mark Ecko, a great pair of boots are needed. I need recomendations, if anyone is familiar with these two boot types, how they feel and how durable they are, please hit me back with an answer, Thank You.

Just found out yesterday through a friend that an ex-girlfriend is getting married next month. First of, I didnt know she had a boyfriend. Second, I havnt spoken to her directly since December. Third, its been nearly two years since we split (but on bad terms, though we worked out our differences and became good friends).

I've moved on and dated casually, but havnt gotten anywhere near serious with any of them. But somehow she keeps popping up in my head and even my dreams. But I havnt had a good opportunity to talk with her inspite of our busy schedules, holidays and such. So it came to me as a surprise that she had been engaged for some time.

But why, oh why cant I get her out of my head now over this news, especially since I sworn to move on months ago? I have no ill regards towards her and I'm happy for her, but I feel so empty now. While I think of her happiness, I meanwhile wallow in self pity and cant stand it.

I've thought of seeking therapy to overcome my sadness, but am not sure if it will work. I've endured so many dissapointments in life to even start looking in a new direction. Can anyone relate to this?

Lets here some suggestions. With all the mixed groups out there like Them Crooked Vultures(Josh Homme,Dave Grohl,John Paul Jones) and Chickenfoot(Sammy Haggar,Chad Smith, Joe Satriani), what Band members from various rock groups would you like to see Chris partner up with and record a studio album? And what would the name of that band be?

Lets have some fun come up with some fantasies. To start with, chris would do Vocals of coarse, Base guitar by Jason Newsted, Lead Guitar by Zakk Wylde, Rythm Guitar by Tony Iommi, and drums by Mike Portnoy of Dream Theater. The band would be called "Black Hole Shadow".

Remember, this isnt serious, just for fun and imagination. So lets hear your ideas.

Heading out first thing in the morning from LAX to Houston then Guadalajara (to be specific), just curious if anyone else is going and what your plans are when you arrive in guadalajara, jalisco!!!!

Could it be the heat? I've dranked lots of water and eaten fruits. I also feel real sad, like the blues...

I will add that I dont go to sleep early enough, I'll go to bed at around 2am most of the time now and not wake up till 930 to 10am daily...as for activities, not much so i feel like not doing anything lately. Ive become rather lazy to do anything about my current state of physicality and mentality...to top it all off i've been getting bad dreams when i actually sleep...anyone else feels or has felt like this and overcome this? Anybody with great suggestions or remedys?

Although I've gamed for over twenty years, I've never before been all that interested in this series...but now I have an itch to try out a couple especially for my DS. What would be the best out of all available FF's on the DS? I've checked out FF IV, FF tactics A2, FF CC Ring of Fates, and i dont remember the new onee that came out recently, all on youtube...but i want to hear your recomendations! Also please explain to me which game is the best.

I like of coarse great gameplay and great story. I also like something thats not much of a chore, but something thats addicting and a reason to come back and play some more!!

If so, do you:

1. Go to wild partys?

2. Drink hard liquor?

3. have premarital sex?

4. curse?

5. Accept gays?

6. Judge others?

7. Berate others?

8. lie about anything?

9. Mess with guys feelings?

10. like other christians?

11. sin, repent, then sin again?

12. not like certain people for whatever reason?

I'm not trying to come off as anti-christian, I'm only asking inspite of bad experiences I've had with women who've called themselves "saved by christ" or "forgiven by god". And I'm not trashing woman in general, I'm just disillusioned by those who I thought were geniune great people.

I'm in the "movin on" stage following a fall out with a girl I was talking to recently. Today would've been the day we would have been going out together tonite for a concert. But for the incident which happened on halloween, I had to bow out gracefully so I'm going to work tonight while her and her family goes to the concert without me. Its been two weeks since we last saw each other, and one week since I've heard from her. I miss her and I liked her so much, and I still feel shameful for how things had turned out so wrong.

but I decided I must leave everything behind and move on for the better, plus I've already apologized a thousand times to her and her family. But thinking about what could've been tonight hinders my efforts to move on. Should I call her later or text her that i hope she and her family have fun tonight at the concert? I have that itch and I wanna scratch but I feel like we should not see each other for a while, and let time heal our wounds. but I also don't want to lose contact with her cause I need her as a friend. (the way we should have been). I'm not saying I want to get back with her, but I don't want her thinking I am by calling her tonight and wishing her well, I just want to hear from her, thats all.

I feel shameful, disgusted, disapointed, disgraced. I hurt people that I care about. I may have lost a wonderful persons trust and admiration for my foolish actions. (for anyone wondering what i mean, check out my other posts).

I've been told to forgive myself but how when all i feel is self hatred. I Am my own worst enemy...I've gone for help but no answers..I've prayed to God for help, but my faith is shattered and hope is futile, and I'm trying to move on and try to love myself. But knowing how I am and how many mistakes I've made has only left me with so much doubt...and the lack of good friends and family hinders my efforts....

As I have posted before, regarding my disgraceful actions at a recent halloween party and earning the disgust and disapointment from my friends and crush ( I was drunk and made alot of insults towards my crush and her guy friend, in front of her mother too!). We had planned for months to go to a concert together next week, me, my crush, her mother, brother and sister and friends. But the smoke hasnt cleared cleared and I've been given the silent treatment. I had made up my mind and decided that by not going to join them for the concert was the best I can do and move on...

Now I have apologized to them many times as I've stated in my last post. But I am so overwhelmed with disgust for my self and having me go along with them to this concert would make the whole mood become awkward. I know they havnt gotten over what happened, and they dont want to talk about it. I felt like I lost some of my best friends and lost out on a chance at having a wonderful girlfriend over my jealousy and distasteful actions at that party that night.

So how do I bow out gracefully and tell them how much i care for them, and how if possible do i ever regain their trust in me.

This past weekend during an after-halloween custom party, I got seriously wasted off of numerous jager shots. All this after seeing my crush with another guy show up at the party. I freaked out and converted into the demon I've kept chained in the innermost darkest corners of mind. What followed was a rampage of insults at my crush and her family (including her mother whom I work with) and got into so many near fights, I thought I was dead!! Alcohol can be a devastating truth serum! More like venom!! 5 days have passed since the incident and I'm still feeling shameful, dissapointed, and disgusted with myself. I have already apologized to everyone involved (except my crush's guy) but her mother will not get over it and she's shown it at work. We don't speak unless its proffesional but otherwise she won't get near me or speak to me. I deserve it, I'm a monster I know. As for my crush, well, I'll just have to deal with the fact that she's got her a new man and let it go. I just want to know if theres a possibility that we could some day get back as friends with her and her mother.

Also I'm not drinking another ounce of alcohol for a very, very long time...I let my jealousy, my obsession, and my emotions and a mixture of alcohol ruin my friendship. What can I do as time passes? We also have a concert date together next friday, don't know if they'll feel comfortable with me coming along. Don't know if I'm even going. How do I fix what i have broken? I've apologized a thousand times..I'm not a bad person.

This girl (27 yrs old) I've known since March and I have had day by day relationship that started off as co-workers to friends to a potential serious relationship. We've hung out a few times and gone to concerts (and we still have one more coming in november). Her mother works with me and she works in another department btw. A month ago I told her how I really felt about her with no regret and she indicated that shes always liked me too and how she thought about me alot (which explains why she constantly texted me in the middle of the night and when I get off from work). We would go back and forth with heart warming text messages to each other and wake up calls to see how each other is doing. plus the occasional phone calls. Though she would come off as kind of cooky at times, I felt like she is the one.

But as of a whole week ago (last time I heard from her, last sunday) I had not heard from her. I last got a reply last sunday afternoon and everything seemed normal. I sent her another text later that day to say "How r u?" and later "Hi Babe!" and no reply...So I wondered what was up and called her and no answer. I felt that she might have been busy so I left her alone. The whole week seemed pretty quiet without her around..I asked her mother if all is fine with her, she said shes been kinda stressed over having her mother, grandmother, and nephew all move in with her, which to me seems quite reasonable since shes the type who likes to spend a lot of time alone.

but still, wouldnt she at least have a few seconds to spare for her "friend" who cares for her? A quick reply like "Im ok" would've done, but I fear she might of lost interest or something else...there could be so many possibilities..Also i would try going to her house, but not with all her new company around, and her not responding to my calls or texts, and not seeing her at work is driving me nuts...I miss my friend and "potential gf"...I will see her again I know, but in what circumstance? I dont know whats going on!!!!!

Friends I need answers, should I wait for her, if not how can i find closure if I cant let her go? Sorry for the long story..theres so much more to this...please only mature answers only...

My friend and crush (27 year old) has gone through one of her "I want to be alone" times again! She does not reply to my text messages and does not answer my phone calls. We've known each other since march and started talking in June. About a month ago I was brave enough to tell her how I felt about her and she indicated she had always felt the same way about me. Things though have been kind of shaky..just minor stuff like my disaproval of her going out to bars with her brother and friends and calling me in the early hours of the morning (around 3am-5am) all drunk. But otherwise we would still talk and discuss our plans to go out more often. Last week she started opening up to me about her feelings and has started to text me "xoxo" and callin me "babe" and "honey" more often during our conversations and telling me how I'm always first on her mind when she wakes up and goes to sleep...I've responded in kind and told her how much I care for her...then suddenly I have not heard from her since sunday afternoon. She wont reply to my texts so I've stopped since late sunday...I know she's ok although i hear she is quite occupied with her daughter and nephew and grandmother have moved in with her. But why wouldnt she just at least let me know everything is ok? I miss her and I'm tempted to call her and even text her again, but I'm afraid I'll push her away since I know for one she doesnt like to be smothered and likes some alone time. I would like to know from some of you girls out there if theres a cause for all this kind of silence. I do not intend on giving up on her since we are not officially in a relationship, but I do miss my friend...I know its only been two days but not hearing from her is like an eternity. Please friends, I only want mature answers..

my friend (my potential girlfriend) is going through one of those "I want to be alone" phases and is ignoring me. She won't even reply to my text messages telling her how much i miss her. So I've decided to move along and give her her time alone and be ready for her when she comes around. What can I do not to think too much of her in the meantime? I have work and many other things to keep me occupied but It always hits me and I start to think about her..

I think I might of screwed things up recently with this girl whom I revealed to her that I like her and have feelings for her and she has the same feelings for me. But when i told her lets take things slow by going "Day by Day" she got to asking me what I meant by that. I had always thought that if we rushed into things quickly everything would be messed up. Since that time shes been going quiet and has been avoiding my calls...I've come into contact recently and she mentioned something about "I'm Waiting" and "I was wondering why you never answer me" in her text messages.. but shes been distant never the less...I dont regret ever telling her how i felt about her, but i do regret ever mentioning the phrase "day by day" as I'm thinking she might now be playing hard to get or making me wait for that dumb mistake of mine...communicating her is hard now, I'm afraid of calling cuz she wont answer and shes stated she never checks her voice mails...We still have plans to hang out at a halloween party and concert in the next two months, so i think we're ok, but I just want clarity between us...I DO WANT TO BE WITH HER!!