Am I in the wrong for arguing with my roommates over the dishes?

Question

For the past 2 and a half months, I have taken it upon myself to clean up after my roommates as well as myself. My roommates would leave dishes, garbage empty beer bottles, etc all over and I would take it upon myself to tidy up almost every night no questions asked, I never complained and everyone is happy.

But since I got a new job and my schedule is crazy,  I don't have the time or the energy to do it except on my days off when I'm back at it. Now the mess has piled up and my roommates are talking to me to do my part.

I got upset and told my piece but they refused to listen to me and they say they don't care what I have to say and it made no sense for me to argue. My position is that I've been doing the cleaning for everyone so I don't need to hear or have to hear about it from the ones who I've been cleaning up after everyone

I don't want a gold medal or a parade, I just don't want to be implicated when things get messy. If I wasn't doing it, it be one thing. Am I in the wrong for arguing with my roommates?

Aurora · Accepted Answer

You aren't wrong at all. Honestly, how did you deal with that for so long? I can't handle cleaning up for other people that long unless we all take turns. Your "friends" need to learn how to take care of themselves which starts with them cleaning up after themselves. You shouldn't let them get away with it, it's their responsibility, not yours. Also, because you said that they don't care about what you say, I think it's best to find new friends. Real friends care about you and are willing to work out problems. Of course it's your choice but I think your life would be more simple if you just found new friends that actually care about you.

Francis · Answer

You should have agreed basic household rules when you started sharing - if they wont change move elsewhere.

Anonym · Answer

Ask Julie.

Am I in the wrong for arguing with my roommates over the dishes?

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