Boyfriend broke up with me last night...still loves me?

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We met one and a half months ago, and I have never met anyone like him. He is gorgeous, kind, smart, witty, adventurous, everything. I really like this guy. He constantly told me I was beautiful, he really really liked me, etc. We had held hands, hugged, kissed, etc. He goes to a different school but it's right across the street from mine. Anyways, we hung out quite a bit, and he was always so different from every other guy I've ever met in my entire life. He also came out to me as bisexual several weeks prior to last night. Last night he texted, said his mom was uncomfortable with him having a girlfriend, his grades are sh*t, etc. Then, he said there's sides of him he doesn't want me to see, and he's terrified of what will happen if I find out. He said he was breaking up with me, and to just forget about him, because he said he was sure I'd "find someone else better than him". He's blaming himself entirely, he says he still loves me though. Should I try and talk sense into this guy and see if we can get back together? I love him a lot, and I do not want to lose him.

Torchbug · Accepted Answer

I might try honesty - tell him what you really think of him, that he's attractive, smart, funny, interesting - and that you don't want him to think less of himself.

But you also need to listen to what he's saying, and accept HIS honesty. He's telling you that there are things he feels ashamed about himself, things he doesn't want you to know. You have no idea what these other "sides" of him are, or what he feels so ashamed about. "Gorgeous, kind, smart, witty" people can have dark sides, too. If you honestly think you could accept him as he really is - someone who's had sex with other men? someone who's done drugs? someone from an abusive home? - I don't know what his secrets are, but if you really TRULY think you could accept those things, then tell him you are willing to stand by his side. But don't say it unless you really mean it, because otherwise he could open up to you and you will hurt him and let him down, which is even worse.

Vikings · Answer

You are not in love trust me. You think you are feeling the emotions, but you don't really understand the aspect of it When I was your age I really loved(thought), another girl a couple years later(thought the same thing. I couldn't take being friends, but now I am perfectly okay). Then I met my GF now I know that was real...I am 24. You should move on. He is saving you a lot of heartbreak.

Anonym · Answer

You're in 8th grade. You aren't in love. His excuse is just that- an excuse. There's someone else he likes better than you. Sorry.

Noir Cupcake · Answer

You both sound young and he sounds incredibly dumb. If you like someone you don't break up with them. Common sense.

Boyfriend broke up with me last night...still loves me?

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