Relationship advice!! please help!?

you shouldn't feel guilty. if he's a video game zombie then i'd bust a move. he's not going to change. and you only live once. if you don't have kids then it sounds like a no-brainer

You are 24 and you have a house, a pool and 2 dogs?? What is the problem? The house is pre-owned? That's really too bad. I'm sorry but I do not see the problem at all. Guys get comfortable. How is that a problem? Maybe you can afford to have someone come in once a week to help with the house work if that is a problem for you.

"He got really upset when i had 'break' talk with him so I know that he loves me..."

His being upset isn't proof that he loves you. He's upset because, as you said,he's grown comfortable with having you do 'everything' for him, and his laziness with keeping up the romance in your relationship, and with himself, and he doesn't want the changes if you leave, and sorry to say that you trained your boyfriend to be the way he is while he lives with you. Maybe you thought that you were supposed to play 'wifey' to him and forgot that you're a young unmarried woman who still has a lot of things she wants to accomplish? I wish you had someone to convince you to save you money and not own a home someone you have no definite plans to marry.

But you've told him how you feel and he still thinks nothing's wrong? Then your choices are to either settle for less than what you really want and stay with him when you know you're unhappy, or to end the relationship and hire lawyer to settle who gets the house and dogs. People who are your true friends will still be there for you after the break up. You have to think about your future and what's best for you right now.

You grab his hand and pull him into the bathroom with you and you two brush your teeth together before bed and together before you leave the house the next day and you make it real like most people do. You establish the habit. If showering is a problem, then you grab your guy and you two take a shower together. If you want more money, work more. If you want o have foreign adventures, then save up the money you are working more for and make your dreams come true. There isn't another human being on the planet who is suppose to do that for you! YOU are suppose to make your dreams come true. If you already know this isn't the guy... then end it. If you aren't sure about that.. then put more effort into making your dreams come true WITH this guy.

Let him know that you aren't happy with the status quo. Have a discussion about how you want things to be and where you'd like them to be going. Has he always had these tendencies or did he change? If there was a change, maybe there is an underlying issue that needs to be addressed, like depression. At any rate, something has got to give. I think he has to decide that he will work on these issues and take actual steps towards improving things or you should break up. Breaking up is hard, but life is also too short to waste.

This happens a lot in marriages and long term relationships. You both get lazy and take each other for granted and stop trying to make each other feel special. Left untreated the relationship will eventually end. There are hundreds of books on how to have a successful relationship and if i had a $ for every time i could give this advice on here then i'd be rich but frankly I hate repeating myself. So, rather than me go into detail, get a good book like the Mars and Venus books and learn about successful relationships and how to get the spark back.

indeed u will lose the house, dogs and friends. and if u dump him doesn't mean u will find someone better. and u can not change someone else. so u decide

your with a man who wants a mom and maid not a wife.