How do I reject a guy nicely?

It's always best to just tell it like it is. Regardless he isn't going to be happy. However, better it now than later on when he begins to wonder about you. For instance, let's say you tell him that you don't see him that way. That's good. The problem comes after when usually girls think that adding in phrases such as "You deserve a girlfriend better than me" "You really are a wonderful guy" "You'd make a great boyfriend to any girl". OK, what the girl doesn't understand is saying all these things i most cases doesn't help. Hell in fact it can make things worse.

Think about a job that you really wanted. You applied for the job but you got rejected. When rejected the job said something like "While we feel that you have an outstanding resume and wonderful qualifications we are moving forward from your application. We thank you for applying and encourage you to continue to explore or opportunities. We wish you luck and success in your future applications." Now, that sounded very nice right? It did, but really let's look at it. In the end it practically could've saved them time if they simply said "We are not hiring you". There, no need for the other stuff. Some people will feel better, but others simply won't. Just like the first paragraph.

When I was rejected through lines like above or lies (girls telling me they have myspace, facebook and/or e-mail but hardly use it or don't have them at all when they do), I would have in mind that things were great or with the lies if the girls had what they said they didn't then we could've hooked up or at least spoke more/dated. Now if I would hear certain things I simply would wonder why would the girl go through all this trouble, just tell me the truth. A few months ago I told a girl that I had an interest in getting to know her better, she said she appreciated that but she didn't see me that way. That was very good. People need to do that more. Things would be much better.

Why on earth would you think that it wasn't a date? If someone of the opposite sex asks you to have drinks 1 on 1 then it is always a date. That way he would have had a clear idea that you weren't interested. It would have been one thing if you were unsure whether you were interested in him and needed the date to find out, but that wasn't the situation from what you said. You knew you weren't interested in him but basically led him to believe that you might be. Crappy imo.

Just be polite in rejecting but you should have declined as soon as he asked you out. Just tell him that you had a great time but that you aren't interested. Don't pull the let's just be friends crap, any guy with brains knows what it means and would just prefer to hear straight up that you don't think it's going to work out. Don't do this again in the future.

Really be like blunt and straight about it. Even if he ends up really hating you. I used to try to do the same things you do and it ALWAYS (like 4 or 5 guys OK so I know) ended up they never took a hint and we got into big fights and I was always the tease or led them on or what ever like it was my fault. I guess it was be cause I was trying to be nice and ended up looking like the bad guy.

I think theres 2 problems one is you were trying to be friendlyhave a drink and text him saying it was nice to have a friend and he red too much into it and also your trying to be nice its cool your a nice person but some times you have to just come out and say I'm not really interested.

As a guy, I would appreciate it more if you were blunt and honest with me. My ego would probably hurt at first but in the long run if appreciate and move on. Why don't you like him?

Just has sex wid some1 else if fwont iof him, I think he''l get da massage