My finace is being deceitful and disgusting...?

Question

I consulted the Yahoo Answers community last week when I found out my fiance masturbates to pictures of girls we know on Facebook. I had mixed reviews - some saying I should mind my own busniess (meanwhile I feel like this is my business...) and some saying I sould tell him how it makes me feel. Now the situation gets a little more awkward...

I checked the history on the computer this morning and found out that it is not just facebook. He went to a website for models and photographers and searched for girls to look at in our area. AND I saw in the history that last night while we were watching a movie, he was looking at girls on Facebook while I was on the couch next to him!! Please give me some serious guidance and if you have ever been in this situation, please tell me what you did and how it all turned out in the end.

I love my fiance but I feel so betrayed... I've lost a lot of respect for him through this.

Wild Child · Accepted Answer

All men masturbate even married men and Most men look 
at porn so this is what you do...
If he is getting revved up and then turns to you half the time
for sexual release then thats okay.  If he understands he 
can use the images to get aroused and then fool around with you...


Otherwise he seriously hopes to bang one of these 
chicks if he's not asking you for sex anymore.  I think he is still
Asking you for sex.  So have a talk tell him that you know. But as 
Long as he choose to marry YOU and have sex with YOU then 
It's okay.

Anonym · Answer

is this something you just discovered? 

is he willing to stop to salvage your relationship? 

You definitely need to discuss this situation. If you cannot compromise or find common ground then I guess you need to re-evalulate your relationship with the perv.

Now if this is the deal, that he maybe a pervert or you maybe a bit prude or he is out of control and deceived you; then you are better off moving on to a new man.

smkeller · Answer

Well, you have stumbled upon the dark, secret life of men, more men than you realize.

I know, it's a real shock.

So, what to do?

My guess is that this will just be too much for you to want to deal with, and it will be a deal breaker.

He won't (read can't) change for you, so don't fool yourself there.

Maybe in twenty years you will know enough about the world and life to deal with something like this, but most likely not now.

LadyMarissa · Answer

Change his status from fiance to friend!!!  You may love him, but he does NOT love you!!!  IF he truly loved you, he would NOT "need" the other girls!!!  I'm a little confused...HOW do you know he's masturbating to them if you haven't actually  seen him masturbating???  He might be meeting some of them & having unprotected sex & bringing home God only knows what kind of STDs to share with you!!!

DUMP the JERK!!!

Anonym · Answer

I have a friend that told me he cannot jerk off to his girlfriend. He has to look at other girls to jerk off even though he actually has sex with her. I don't understand why.

It's normal for guys to want to bang lots of girls.

If you castrate him, his sex drive will go away but then you won't be getting any either.

Whatever a guy does with his fantasy, penis, and hand (or inanimate object) is his own business.

Thailynn · Answer

Confront him about it but follow your instincts. If you think he is going to cheat, run for the hills. I would dump him, personally, but do what you feel is right.

Anonym · Answer

You need to tell him he needs to stop! Tell him how it makes you feel and if he doesn't stop , threaten to break up with him.

Anonym · Answer

He obviously isn't getting it enough

My finace is being deceitful and disgusting...?

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