How to deal with this *first time* mom situation HELP!?

The bassinet is just for situations like this. The baby sleeps in the bassinet during the newborn period.

As for the parenting books. I agree with your mom.

I also read every book out there. I can't tell you how much money I spent on those books. Christian parenting books, the What to expect serious, DK parenting books in full color like a magazine & more. But not to long into parenting I saw that I just wasn't like the "moms" in those books.

My baby didn't sleep happily in a sling on me.

My baby didn't like being put down for a nap she rather breastfeed while napping.

My baby didn't take to breastfeeding right away.

Breastfeeding didn't melt the pounds off me.

I couldn't nap while my baby napped.

I didn't want to give my baby a bottle at night so my husband could help with night feedings.

I could go on & on.

I was scared to wash my new baby because she was so small and slippery when wet. My husband had to help me.

Every single family is different. What is good for one family isn't good for another. You will learn what works for you.

Your worries are very normal too. I'd say be worried if you were not worried. ; )

Put the crib in your room. That way she's not in your bed, but you will still hear her when she cries.

There should be no way for her to get her head stuck between the bars on a new crib. Just be careful when you take her to grandma's house and she pulls out the old crib from when you were a baby and the bars are 6" apart.

A babies crib should be in your room for the first 3 months and as she grows she will soon adjust to being alone, but I wouldn't put her in the bed with you.

I lost my sister to SIDS and she was in her own crib, so SIDS can happen any time, any place, any where.

What would you want for your child ? Safety or being alive?

I would put her in her own crib and buy her a baby sleeping bag (to prevent the baby from rolling over)

good luck and all the best

a babys crib should be in your room til she is at least 12 months old or sleeps through the night, because she will wake every 1-4 hours for feeds and if she is next to you it will make it easier on you to get back to sleep, secondly buy an angel care monitor, it has a pad that goes under the mattress and will beep if she doesnt move for 15 seconds and alarm after a further 10 seconds to alert both you and the baby its loud enough to shock both of you and is an amazing piece of kit to give a first time mum some peace of mind and some sleep.

once she starts sleeping thru or wakes twice a night its your call whether you want to put her in her own room. after which you will still hear her via a monitor so dont worry.

but for peace of mind keep her with you at least for 6 months.

i bacame a 1st time mum last year and i went thru the same thingand without the monitor andcrib being next to me i would have been a total sleepless wreck

Welcome too motherhood:) you will worry about your kids for the rest of your life. There is absolutely nothing I can say that will keep you from worrying.

New crib assembled correctly that isn't on the recall list.

Dress baby warmly usually a sleeper or gown

Don't expose baby to smoke

Swadle wrap the baby

Place baby on back

No pillow, blanket other then swadle, no toys, no bumper pad, no mini blinds near bed

Keep temperature low in bedrooms

Take baby to the doctor if he is sick

Best of luck with your bundle of joy.

If she sleeps with you it's risky but also addictive to her and a hard habit to break. If her crib is in the room with you you will hear her its instinct. She wont roll for months so you shouldn't worry and Ger crib bars shouldn't be that wide apart. Get her feet PJ's and learn how to keep her locked in her blanket we have all woke up with an uncovered baby but we learn. Good luck. And don't worry it all really does come to you

The bars arent wide enough for the head to go through. Also I use the sleep sacks, they are fleece and just like a blanket only with arms. i also used a swaddle me with my son when he was a newborn.

put her crib in your room. easy solution.

she's not gonna get SIDs from sleeping in your room

Leave the baby in her crib. 'Nuff Said.