Please read this message and tell me if it sounds like I was accusing anyone of trying to steal my boyfriend?

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Ok, so I sent this message to my boyfriend's female friend just as a candid introduction of welcome and she comes back with "Look I'm not trying to steal your man"...... UMmmmm OK weird.... sometimes I wonder about people! But anyways, please read the message and tell me if its sounded like I said anything derogatory to this person what so ever. UGH REALLY 

Dear (Name left out) Female friend of my boyfriend,
Even though you don’t know me, I just wanted to say I appreciate all that you do as a friend to (My bf's name). I just wanted to say that and I thank you with all sincerity. All bullshit aside, I’m glad (bf name) has someone in his life he can trust & talk to when he feels he can’t talk to me. It doesn’t matter what is said, he needs more than just me & my kids in his life. He needs more than family and I personally appreciate you being his friend. 
Honestly I have to admit, I was nervous before, because I truly don’t know you and I thought it was a problem but I trust him and you are his friend. Regardless of my opinion he needs to vent just like the rest of us. My only hope is that you don’t misunderstand what I’m saying what so ever because I’m trying to be candid and genuine as well as express my gratitude with all sincerity. I just wanted to say that and let you know, you and your family are welcome in my home. I want (bf's name) to feel comfortable here, because my home is his home as long as he wishes to stay and that extends to his family just as much as his friends. 
You may not get this right away because I don’t want either of you getting upset with me sending this message. I have debated if I should ask him about sending this for a week now. I’m moderately apprehensive because I don’t wish to cross a line, nor do I wish to cause trouble. I don’t expect to become your bff based on (bf's name) and his friendship with you. I just wanted to say my peace in the hopes that you will continue to be a good friend to him. He does need that! So again, thank you and I hope you have a wonderful evening! 
PS: He just mentioned that he asked you if you guys wanted to come over, and that’s when I asked if he minded if I sent you a message. LOL, anyways, we would love to have you over! I hope you consider it, ty
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Arene · Accepted Answer

You sound desperate and I would know right off you were not comfortable. If i were a bad woman and if I liked the guy, I would use this against you. The only time I contacted my husbands (ex-husband)person of interest  was when I wanted to mess with his and her minds lol because I had already made up mine, I was done. When you are confident in your relationship, you never and you should not have to send out anything to anyone. If your boyfriend needs another female to talk to besides you, that's a clue to not proceed with him. Your husband should be your best friend if you guys are headed that way. If he already exhibits another lady being his friend and being willing to discuss crap with her, he cannot with you- it's worth it's weight in gold to have that information before proceeding further.
A true female friend or male friend respects a friends relationship and backs the hell off- it would have been more acceptable for her to contact you to befriend you and make sure you were comfortable even to the point of you being good friends with her if it was necessary for her to be in you guys life. 
Men and women need to stop acting dumb, they know their boundaries because they know how they would feel in a situation. The relationship comes first. Now what is going on in the world today, people are privileging themselves to what used to be preserved for marriage sanctioned by God, but because this institution is so trampled on, we find the results of screwed up relationships abound. 
Yes, I lived some messed up stuff, but you have to learn at some point in your life or you will keep repeating crap over and over.
Garden, chill out and get a man who will respect you and your children, you are too young to deal with this crap! Actually, you need to value yourself and not deal with this at any age.

Anonym · Answer

once you're seniors and that's a actual communication, i'm ashamed. Who ought to really say the word: "nicely *too* undesirable, so unhappy" truly? This has were given to be a funny tale. If no longer, merely tell her to back off; she sounds loopy. Have a sturdy day! Lbee

Hannah · Answer

To be honest, it was a bit weird of you, seeing as you don't know her at all. I think her reply was totally reasonable, but i wouldn't worry about the situation i'm sure it'll be fiiiine xx

Please read this message and tell me if it sounds like I was accusing anyone of trying to steal my boyfriend?

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