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muldervskrycek fragte in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · vor 1 Jahrzehnt

The Girl of my Dreams is getting engaged. Don't know what to do?

I've known this girl for a few years now. I have told her that I like her a while ago, but she was with a boyfriend at the time. I never really knew whether she felt the same way and we have stayed as friends in the meantime.

Recently I have found out that she is getting engaged to this other boyfriend that she has been with for a couple of years now. I have met him and he seems like a nice guy.

I'm really not sure whether I should try and admit my feelings again to her. I just wonder if we can realistically be friends anymore.Its just that she's incredibly good looking and it's just hard to be friends with a girl that you regard that way.

I think I could be friends with her if I had a girlfriend, and I do value having friends that are girls. Its just that I'm still very much single and I'm starting to lose hope a little bit.

Any ideas what I should do?

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  • Anonym
    vor 1 Jahrzehnt
    Beste Antwort

    "is getting engaged to this other boyfriend that she has been with for a couple of years now"

    That's it, man. Show's over.

    Seriously, if she wanted you she wouldn't have been in a relationship with someone else, or be planning to get married to the guy. I feel your pain though, and I can empathize with the idea that hanging out with her in the future would just be awkward. Unless you two are somehow amazing together in the way you get along (which I can't imagine if you were able to secretly be in love with her this entire time and nothing ever happened) I'd say stop initiating contact.

    In my social situation (friends with a whole lot of people that I don't "really" know, you could call it casual) if I stopped contacting someone I guess we'd just sort of disappear from each other's lives after a while cause noone likes to always be the one to initiate, and the connection isn't deep enough for someone to like confront me about how I seem to be ignoring them.

    Maybe it's different with you and this girl and she ends up asking you why you never contact her anymore or something - in that case just say you were busy and then continue like before. Seems harsh but it's better than "confessing" your love (nonsensical, she's not getting engaged for no reason) or any of that awkward ****, and mostly it's a hell of a lot better than being asked to watch her get married.

  • ?
    Lv 5
    vor 1 Jahrzehnt

    I would have to say you should congratulate her in her engagement and move on from thoughts of the two of you ever getting together. Definitely don't start letting hope slip away, not a good downward spiral to start getting yourself in.

  • Anonym
    vor 1 Jahrzehnt

    You will have to forget her, sorry. If you keep close contact you will waste your life pining about someone you cant have, maybe even letting letting potential partners get away. sounds like a tortured way to live.

  • Anonym
    vor 1 Jahrzehnt

    IM SOO SORRY BUT I THINK IT IS TIME TO GET OVER HER AND FIND SOME ONE NEW OR TELL HER AGAIN ABOUT HOW U FELL AOUT HER

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  • Anonym
    vor 1 Jahrzehnt

    listen to speak now by taylor swift for my advicee :)

    and this song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pe-Eosmk6oE

    LIFE IS TOO GOD DAMN SHORT!

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