I always find love so painful.?

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Has anyone else had any problems finding love throughout their lives?
I'm 25 now and I'm still a virgin, and I've never been in a relationship. I'm just starting to feel as though love really isn't worth the effort. There have been about 3 occasions where I've really liked a girl and they've always turned me down and gone off with someone else (usually a friend of mine).

Just found out yesterday that a girl who I have had a strong feelings for has just got engaged.
All my friends are in relationships and they just talk about how other girls from their past now approach them and admit that they fancy them too. Also how they are thinking about marriage.
Its making me wonder what the hell is wrong with me.

I've tried some of the Internet Dating sites but I hardly get any responses, and those that I do I seem to lose interest after a week or so.

If anyone has any suggestions how I can quell these bad feelings and try and see the more pleasent side of love please help.

Cecillia · Accepted Answer

I once wrote in a song that being in love was being, "Vulnerable, in the worst way".

And it's true, love leaves you particularly vulnerable, because you let down your guard on the depths of your heart. It's what keeps your blood flowing, oxygen through your veins.

Look, when you find the right person and start making some happy memories, even if it doesn't end in a complete happily ever after, it's worth it. Once you find the final one, you'll realize that you just had to get through the others to find the one you're with.

Try joining clubs and such in your community, taking a class (my town holds art classes and such for adults at the local high school), church groups (choir, Bible study), just everything normal. Go to fun events with friends to meet new people, but not bars and such. Go to festivals and such, family-friendly environments where you can meet some good people.

Please just keep searching, it's worth it in the end when you find someone special, trust me.

Anonym · Answer

I would say 99.9 percent of people face hardships in there love life's. Make-ups and break-up, those awful mixed feelings or getting dump is all apart of life. When your heart is broken you lose the some of the pieces. As your recover and move on, you will find some of the piece but not all. Love is a hard thing, but eventually you will find someone that makes love not as painful. -Kaitlin Kitty

Anonym · Answer

I agree with cnt927.Maybe there is something different out for you.We all have our own path.
I'm sure you'll meet a sweet person.Have hope..if you really want.Don't give up.Keep looking.

I never dated a guy lool but who cares.Life has so much beautiful things.That are yet waiting to be discoveredI guess,people always think that dating is everything.But,really no.I hope to God you find a nice girl who will give you a lot of love and happiness. : )

Have hope okay.

? · Answer

It may seem like the biggest cliche but everybodys meant to be loved... it may seem completely hopless but keep the faith, things usually work out... and you're making an effort! dont give up on love yet... 

The is a poem that i wrote, anyone reading this please tell me what you think! thanks..
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Anonym · Answer

Honestly, the moment you stop looking for love it will find you. Have morals and guidelines and it can only lead you to a positive place.

I always find love so painful.?

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