How do you let go of something you've always wanted?

My husband and I were dissapointed to find out we were having a boy the second time around, too. Our hearts sort of sank when the tech started talking about seeing a penis.

Now my sons are ages 3.5 and the our second son, age 16 months. We now are delighted we have our 2 boys. We would of planned it just this way after all. Our two boys play together so well and are totally in sync and are so fun to watch be rowdy together. I totally understand the dissapointment you are feeling about not shopping for pink and purple frilly or fun dresses and hair doo dads. I've been there. I felt that way. Cause I only wanted 2 children.

So if its any help to you to know that i felt the same way and now I am totally happy and more than satisfied with my 2 sons. I truly and honestly would would of planned it just this way if i would of been able to see how wonderful having 2 of teh same gender has turned out to be. They are 2 cute together and have the same desire to play rowdy and with trucks and tractors and wrestle. They are best friends for life... My heart is full as full could get. I am not trying for a 3rd. I feel complete. So does my husband. he just recently had a vesectomy.

We're each musicians who are not able to assume residing with or being married to non-musicians. It's a culture and if you are no longer "into it" it needs to be difficult to fully grasp. I consider you might have made a few well recommendations however you sound like polar opposites. You could advise that she emerge as worried in a few element of your profession.(There are continually such a lot of non musical matters that have to be performed) Maybe invite her on your exhibit that is an hour and a million/two away and as a substitute of crashing on the bass gamers apartment, get a room together with her. (Little mini excursion) Make definite that you're additionally taking time to simply hang around together with her at house. It seems like she's made concessions, have you ever? Marriage is approximately assisting each and every different. If she's doing all the assisting and also you go away her striking always, it may not final. If you might have been lower than supportive approximately how SHE enjoys residing, make the brand new 12 months a threat to do matters otherwise. Get out the calendar and just like the gigs you play, agenda time that's blocked out only for her. When the ones instances roll round, make her your #a million precedence and do not pass out to hang around, pass out or be wherever that's not together with her. Let her realize that you are operating on it and invite her to return to extra gigs to peer what your musician existence is all approximately.... Good success :)

It is a really touchy subject, isn't it?! you are not a bad person for wanting a girl... i think all women secretly want a girl at some stage, even if they say they don't care what they have.

is 2 babies your limit?? You can try timing your ovulation to get a girl if you want to try again later... i did that for my second and got a girl after a boy. Then #3 was a bit of an accident, but we actually did the same thing as with #2 and got another girl (had sex 3 and 2 days before ovulation, not 1 day before or on the day of).

I think it is an instinct thing, and its not something that you can get rid of. its natural! Just enjoy your sons, and if more babies are on the cards, try again for that little girl!

Don't feel bad, it's understandable. If I had a son, I would still be upset and want a girl.

You said your husband might agree to one more...maybe a bit down the road you can try again. Maybe you can adopt too. There are lots of children waiting for a home. Or maybe after dealing with a toddler and a newborn those feelings of wanting another will go away lol

It's always been your desire to have a daughter, and that is understandable. Life has given you two healthy babies, and right now it's not in the cards to have a daughter. You are disappointed, and that is ok. Sometimes your dreams don't go away, but they can change with time. I only have one child, and I would give just about anything to have another. But infertility is in my cards, and so were going to adopt. My dreams haven't changed, but the way of having another child in our life has. I hope this helps. good luck.

You don't necessarily have to let go of your dream. Wait about three years after the birth of your second son and talk to your spouse. If you are both up for it, you could try again, depending on your financial situation and your body condition.