What do you do when you feel so alone?

Question

My first love is now my ex. Well I guess she has been for a month. But today I finally decided I need to let go completely. She wants me to be over her but she wanted to still be friends. I told her I could not do both. I told her that we can't be friends and that this is goodbye. She was very upset but whatever it's not my problem anymore. If she didn't want to lose me in her life completely she shouldn't have broken up with me.

The first few hours were easy. I was busy at school and at work. When I got back home I realized just how alone I was now. I don't have many real friends. I'm not anti social, I just have a very small group of real friends who I still talk to and see every once in a while. All but one go away to colleges now, and even the one here I don't talk to all that often. Maybe once a week for a short time.

The truth is, she was my best friend for the year and a half we spent together. I didn't need anyone else in that time. Now that she's gone I'm all alone. I just want to talk to somebody. Anybody. I know I made the right choice, even though every fiber of my heart was screaming no don't do it. So what do I do when I feel so alone? I have no one to connect to anymore. I can't go out and join clubs and meet new people etc. I'm busy enough as it is with school and work.

Anonym · Accepted Answer

Keep yourself busy with school and work. Over time, your feelings will pass and you will be much more content. I am going through the same thing right now, and so far, it's been tough. However, working and class are 2 things I know will keep my mind off of him.

Anonym · Answer

You should go into town or join a church thing. That doesn't mean you have to be christian, besides, there's a ton of people who act sooo anti christian at their own churches, it's just a really quick way to meet people. 

I do a thing called tribulation trail that's really fun and it's how I met my current boyfriend. I'm really into him, but I make sure I always make time for my friends. They'll only try for so long. Sure I'd rather be out with him, but once I actually go out with my friends I'll have fun. I'd just always prefer to be with him so I wouldn't go out with anyone else and that's not healthy for any relationship. 



I know that feeling, you're just so into them that you think you'll be together forever and they're all you'll ever need, and then they leave. My first love ex did that to me and I'm still tore up a year and some months later, but I've learned my lessons. He will always be my first love, but I'm nearly done with accepting he's gone for good.

Angel · Answer

This is so hard, you must let go but slowly.Try going to your house of worship and pray, meditate and join a gym. If you work out it will be good for you also long walks in the park.  You have to start socializing, perhaps throw a party at home a small get together..It will pass, but you will never forget.

Robert · Answer

If being around her made you happy then you should give her a chance at just being friends. You never know she might fall back in love with you.

Anonym · Answer

You have to let it go, let out your feelings. Get over the past and you will survive believe me it gets better

? · Answer

Masturbate.

What do you do when you feel so alone?

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