How do you go after an ex when you don't know what happened?

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Long story short, she broke up with me about a month ago.  We were together for 1.5 years.  She surprised me one night saying she no longer felt the same and that we should break up.  I spent the next 5 days trying save our relationship but it honestly felt like she made up her mind long before she told me.  

Anyway, she never really gave me a real reason as to what happened.  All she would keep saying is "I just don't feel the same thngs just changed" which honestly I think is complete bullshit.  Love doesn't just change for no reason.  She one time cited 'well we would keep having little fights over the past few weeks and just idk", but we didn't  Neither one of us could remember even one disagreement we had over the weeks before she wanted to end things.  

So I guess I have two real questions.  What happened to make her just change like that?  Like I said, she claims there were some little fights but she couldn't even recall one and I think if a disagreement caused you to stop loving someone than you would atleast remember something about it.  Do you think she just never loved me to begin with?  Maybe she started to be attracted to another guy?  Did she just get bored because we became too comfertable in our relationship/

And two, how do you go after your ex when you don't know what really caused the breakup.  It's been a month, and I still love her and want her the same as I did before any of this happened.  She's the world to me.  I don't want to just get over her because she is the one I want to spend my life with.  Her or nothing basically.  Maybe I'm being stubborn and delusional but I would honestly never love again than be in love with someone else.  I haven't talked to her in almost two weeks now.  Should I keep up the silence?

vicki b · Accepted Answer

She made it clear.  There is probably someone else she is interested in.  I would bite the bullet and try to let this one go even though the pain is great.  Do not try to beg yourself back to her.  It is not worth it.  Something was missing for her.  While you do not feel it now, eventually you will find someone new.  I know, it's heartbreaking.  I am sorry, but after reading your explanation, this is how it feels to me.  She probably gave up the best thing she will ever have.  You cannot change people.

Anonym · Answer

Well my (ex) boyfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago now and he knows just how I feel and I know how he feels, but at the moment we're not talking - We came to that agreement it might be best for a little while. I finally realised he needed some time and I know I need to give at least that to him. Anyway, I know why we broke up so it wasn't hard to try and win him back.

It's really sad that she never gave you a real reason but maybe that's because she never really felt much at the beginning but this is just my opinion, you need to find out what the real reason was sometime.
If you want her back I suggest you try as hard as you can to keep up this silence, I'd say 2 weeks + to see if she talks to you, and also to see if you can find any evidence in why she has broken up with you from just basic .. Not stalking but you know just checking thing's out without her knowing if you can, internet wise. Because if it is because of another guy it's sure to pop up soon.
After this silence if she doesn't speak to you at all give her a text either saying something casual like hey how're you kind of thing, or ask her to meet up with you or whatever you feel like at the time.
I hope you find luck within this relationship as I really do feel for you and how you feel.
Good luck

Angel · Answer

She has someone else in mind...Believe me..She just used you for a while...If a woman doesnt send you emails, or looks at you like your some kind of God to her...She is not in love with you...

Every woman gets dressed for her man, cooks for him and pampers him cause thats what love is...you care for them...Shake it off and move on...

A man who stays in a loveless relationship, is a dead man inside...You will be miserable with her later on...MOVE ON!!!!!

How do you go after an ex when you don't know what happened?

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