Me and my best friend have the same crush...?

Question

my best friend has had a crush on this guy forever. i started liking him recently, and the thing is, he likes me back. my BFF is literally obsessed with him to a point of stalkerish-ness, and he doesn't like her. i'm not absolutely crazy about him like she is, but she's kind of dramatic, and if i got involved with him, she would be totally devastated. how do i keep myself away from him?

Kelly M · Accepted Answer

I am a firm believer in not fighting over guys.  If five people like one guy, but he likes only one of those five girls, is it the girl's responsibility to stop liking him to not hurt other people's feelings? No.  The guy probably would agree.  If he likes you, you should go for it.  Don't shove it in your friends face, and talk to her about it beforehand.  If you truly think she's going to be that mad about it, maybe she is not your BFF.  You may have to take into account the fact that she might not want to be your friend anymore.  And if that's the case, would it be worth it to you.  If not, then tread lightly.

Payo loves Japan · Answer

You  know  nothing  will  help  you  and  your  best  friend  if  you  keep  away  yourself  from  that  guy.You  need  to  think  about  the  situation  carefully.Ask  that  guy  for  his  feelings ,let  him  decide  whom  he  will  choose  finally.But  if  he  chooses  you,then  you  both  have  to  convince  your  best  friend  politely  without  hurting  her  feelings.If  he  likes  that's  good.You  don't  need  to  keep  yourself  away  from  him.

Since  you  may  also  be  having  fear  that  you  might  lose  your  friend ,so  you  are  keeping  yourself  away  from him.But  if  your  friend  is  understanding  and  true  friend  to  you,then  she  will  remain  friend  with  you.Otherwise ,she  will  leave  you.

Madison · Answer

Don't stay away from him, just strictly stay friends. Tell him you only want to be friends with him, but let him down easily. A guy isn't worth losing a best friend over.

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Stephanie · Answer

just think about the consequences. u can be with him for a short period of time and loose your friend forever. do you think that h wants to be with you or just use you? it really depends how much self control you have.

? · Answer

Well you should date him if you like him and he likes you. there is nothing wrong with that. i know your best friend will be hurt but he just doesn't like her...i mean i know shes your best friend but you have to think about yourself sometimes...trust me she will get over it..but if you want to keep yourself away from him  for her sake, just ignore him, tell him you don't want to hurt your best friends feelings..

Me and my best friend have the same crush...?

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