Is there a reluctantance to date?

Yes, I did find this to happen to me a lot when I started wanting to date girls... Any time they said yes the relationship didn't last too long, and seemed like they always just wanted to be friends. I always thought I was just a nice person and gentleman to have around. Then I did some reading, tried different approaches and found out that it was just the way I presented myself. The biggest problem guys have is they are just straight out big "wussies". They take advice from their mothers and be the nice boy, but unfortunately girls aren't attracted to this. You need to go from being the nice boy, to the man. You need to start acting manly, adjusting the way you handle yourself and not always just throwing out complements and buying gifts and so on... Attraction from a girls standpoint is made in 5 to minutes of talking with a guy. Once you have that you are in, you just need to learn how to attract girls.

You will be fine my friend, just stay calm, confident and keep swinging!

Good luck! :)

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You have become insecure because of all the rejection. Rejection, is a pain that we as men must learn to endure and force our way past , with the correct strategy. The best therapy is to diversify the pool of potential mates your are exposed to; if you are rejected by younger women, try meeting more mature ones, for example. If you only try to befriend women at social gatherings, like night clubs, try meeting women in quieter, more intellectual, settings, like at hobby clubs or social/environmental groups. You also need to analyse your male friends, if you are vastly different from them, you are more mature or more sophisticated, then you need to meet male friends that are more similar to you. Do not shy away from rejection, it is a part of life, expect it to happen and keep trying. It is only when you stop believing in yourself that rejection has won.

I agree.

Another point: it almost seems that, from the age at which people now begin to take an interest in relationships, the only goals appear to be permanence and children, immediately.