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Bethany I
Bethany I fragte in Family & RelationshipsOther - Family & Relationships · vor 1 Jahrzehnt

Adults over 30 only please?

My boyfriend and I are in love. The sex is pretty good, but he rushes right to sex when sometimes what I want and need is more intimacy and to slow it down a bit. That actually gets me 'hotter" in the long run. He is very satisfied with me sexually but I am not with him. How can I let him know without bruising his ego? I care very deeply for this man. We are 50ish.

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  • Anonym
    vor 1 Jahrzehnt
    Beste Antwort

    First off why over 30? I am 25 and I feel the same way as you. How does 5 years make that much of a difference? Just tell him straight up. I told my partner that when he ‘jiggles his zipper’ and shows me his stuff, it is not a turn on and if he wants me in the sack with him, loving and touching and kissing etc. is the way to get me.

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  • ?
    Lv 5
    vor 1 Jahrzehnt

    Men are fairly stupid when it comes to what turns their lady on. A pinch here, a kiss there, a little "slap and tickle" and Huston we have liftoff. Mostly we figure "This is so hot go baby go" while the partner has just gotten to "this could lead to something good". Which of course is Huston we have a problem. The only way you can get through to him is tell him pretty much straight out. Because like I said few of us learn the rule of "if she gets hotter it'll get BETTER". Even if you hedge the truth a bit and say that since your older it takes you longer so he will slow down in the foreplay and not assume you caught up to his level. I don't think it's too bruising to the ego (it wasn't to mine) as long as you let him know you want it too, but let's take our time and play more. A little " lay down I want to screw you a** off once in a while doesn't do anything but drive him nuts and he should start looking into what make you happy as a payback.

    Quelle(n): The more hand holding and for no reason kiss on the neck, hug intimacy is harder and it takes longer. But the answer is fairly close to the first part. Couples have to trust each other well enough to TALK and of course listening would help to, but that's usually his weakness and that's why it takes longer. We care, we're just dense and hints don't work on men.
  • chowika
    vor 1 Jahrzehnt

    Okay I was in the same situation with my husband!!!! I had to tell him it made me "hotter" to be a little more intimate and how. They are not mind readers and you need to let them know. I was a little embarrassed at first to bring it up but I did because I was getting frustrated and not "wanting" any anymore. So one day I told him, he was like, "why didn't you tell me before?". Now its really great and we even try different things once in a long while..

  • ?
    Lv 5
    vor 1 Jahrzehnt

    I'm in my mid 50's and I wish my wife would tell me what rings her bell. She just lies there like a bump on a log and says nothing.

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  • ?
    Lv 7
    vor 1 Jahrzehnt

    Take charge. Tell him to lay still and you handle everything. Me and my lady take turns pleasing each other, depending who is in what mood.

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