Is a secound punishment needed?

You should never threaten a punishment if you're not prepared to follow through. Children need consistency. If you punish one time for something and not the next it is worse than if you never corrected them in the first place. So give the promised spanking.

Manuela,

Please don't say to your child "wait until your father gets home". Best that you deal with it. Delayed punishment is never a good thing for a child.

Just sit down and see if you can figure out why he didn't do it. Was he too busy playing? Did he forget? Was it too hard? If you find out the reasons behind hid non-compliance you are half way to solving the problem.

Then start to sit down with him for a few minutes each afternoon to help him get started on his work. Set him up then go away and just keep an eye on him. Be available to answer questions. Show him how you want him to do his homework. Break it down into easy pieces for him.

Your son needs to get into a little routine of doing his homework each day. Encourage him when he does it and give him small incentives along the way, ie. homework = television time

Call for a Pupil Evaluation team meeting. This will get all the people who work with your child together in the same room. This is also the way to engage "special education services" BUT it does not need to result in special ed being provided.

Find out if your son has educational impairments which are beyond his control.

To call a PET you need to send a letter to the Principal or superintendent of your local school which says:

Dear Sir:

I wish to request a Pupil Evaluation team assessment of my son's educational difficulties, mainly around the issue of failure to do homework. I understand you must give me a date for this meeting within ten days.

Then sign it, and send it to the school. You can call, but this does not insure your rights under the law. You may cut and paste the above letter inserting your son's name..

If you need more help with this please email me direct

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Good Luck

Harry H. Snyder III

Hun, I feel your pain, but before you go and punish your son I would research it a little further. You son could need glasses, he may be so bored with the work (too easy) that he feels above it and how dare you insult his intellgence by making him do it. Sounds crazy my five year old does that. He could possibley have ADD or ADHD, kids like that can not get organized to save there life, lose every thing, and even if it is written in his agenda book will forget to do it (my 12 year old). He may even have some form of dislexia. Dont depend on his teacher for answers they are good for nothing and will not have his best intrest in mind. Sit your son down talk to him gently reassure him he is not in trouble and see if he can tell you what is going on. be carfeful how you ask questions to ensure you are not giving him the answer. A child will just agree with you if you tell him whats wrong with him. Dont punish him yet, dont reward him either. Get him tested , and he could just be plain lazy in which case be stern, tough love and punish accordingly.

"For a couple of weeks we became a Letter". How did you manage to do something like that?

well morph his overall punishment into removing all level of Entertainment no tv no games no fast food ETC and make him write

i will do my homework i will tell the truth i will not break my promises

i note that I've got two tumbs down but new school parent who "talk" to their children only breed social misfits and don't instill an moral compass in their children an you can disagree with me butt when your children grow up and shoot up a school who do you think is going to get blamed

not the child

Have his teacher give you a list of his weekly HW assignment, and sit down with him and do it together. Do not do it for him; do it with him. As for the person who said that teachers are worthless, ignore him. Teachers generally have your child's best interests at heart, work hard, get paid little and love your kids.

Oh yeah, spanking is not a good solution. Too many parents spank. I have raised three wonderful children and never spanked. We talk instead.

Spanking over the knee with his bottom bared

Where are YOU when he's meant to be doing his homework?