Is a secound punishment needed?

You need to check on the homework when he gets home, and when it is finished. You will have to monitor the homework until the problem is resolved. But first you'll have to go through with that big spanking, and then tell him that you are going to ask his teachers about the problem.

You need to insure that he does his homework. Before he goes to school make sure that his assignments are complete. Put him on a very tight restriction until he gets into the homework habit. Of course, explore all the possibilities of why he is not doing his homework. Since you promised him a spanking you should carry out your promise. Don't make the same promise again. Try something different next time and that might just include turning some of the discipline over to his dad. Go to his school and have a parent teacher conference and get the teacher's perspective on what is going on with your son.

At age 8 physical punishment for homework infractions or other kinds of misbehavior is not the answer to this situation. Your boy may have already been "infected" by his peer group at school or he may have gotten himself involved in something he is still incapable of dealing with. Back off a little! A child's natural inclination is to want to do well in school both for his parents and himself. Do you think he likes to have you and his teachers yelling at him all the time about his homework and other things? Ask him. I bet he'll give you an honest answer. Tell him you and daddy have to go to work every day and sometimes you have to do things you don't like to do but you do them anyway because that's the way we get the food to put in your mouth. Well, his "job" is to go to school and do the best he can. Isn't it obvious that what you're doing isn't working? Yelling at him hasn't improved his homework any, has it? Remember about catching more flys with honey than with sugar? Try a little sugar on him: praise him for the good things he's done today in school and he'll come around with the homework. But you have to be consistent too; with your praise but especially with your interest in his progress. You can't be hot today and disinterested tomorrow. Show him genuine interest in the things he's interested in too. Go talk to his teachers, get their suggestions. Do you read to him at night? -- he's not too old for that. Does he spend some "quality time" with his father(if he's still in the picture)? Does he understand he is a student and a student's job is to learn. No allowance this week if you miss more than one homework assignment. Take the TV out of his bedroom and monitor his computer use (if he has one). If he has more than a half hour of written homework complain to his teachers. He has to have time for himself, time to be a kid. Push him out the door with a kiss and a cookie so he can go and play. Still problems? Make sure his father is involved or, if not, seek professional advice, a lot of which can be found for free or minimal cost. School, church, or community agencies, they're out there, but sometime you gotta dig deep.

I agree with fixer29. See if you can help him.

When i was a kid and we were doing bad in school, my mom would give us the table time out for a few days or until our grades came up. Basically, the child has to sit at the table all day. Can't talk (unless to ask about school). Can't watch tv. Can't put head down. Can't doodle. The only thing you can do is schoolwork, go to the bathroom, and eat. Then go to bed. Very boring. When this happened to me as a kid, My grades shot up because I had nothing to do except school work. There were no phone calls, nothing. No internet unless it was school related, which she made sure.

I would try and find out why he is not doing his homework, it could be a sign of some other problems he is having. It could be he is being bullied, or maybe he is having problems with the work.

I think it would be best for you to sit him down and talk to him, and see if you can get him to tell you if he is having any problems at school.

Of course if it is just that he is being lazy then go ahead and punish him.

And if he has a tv or anything like that in his bedroom take it out till you can trust him with it.

what you need to do is have a discussion with his teachers, that they ensure that his homework is in his bag before he leaves the classroom. Upon getting home...YOU his mother..got through his bookbag, take it out and make him sit down then, there, immediately to do it, before he can go and play or do anything else. My daughter's teacher has a folder for each child with a chart, each day it is sent home filled out with exactly which homework they are to do, I have to sign it each night, to ensure that I saw it. If the kids do not return it signed, they do not get recess at school.

Give him the promised spanking but maybe do it a different way (because over the knee isn't working) and start taking away treasured items of his.

You have to follow through and spank him. Maybe require him to do the before he does ANYTHING else.