Can you really love someone who you aren't involved with?

Not answering your question, but just sharing some opinions. I think it's hard for us guys to be monogamous. That's not to say it can't be done, but it takes much more effort than for girls. After all, testosterone is the hormone responsible for sex drive in either sex, and guess who has more of it? We are wired to look for sexual outlets.

I am speaking from my own experience. Whenever I have had a boyfriend, I've always felt like I've been tied down, and wanting something else. I don't know if its a permanent thing for guys or if it is just an age/maturity thing (I'm still relatively young).

My question is whether love can be detached from sex. I think it could.

I have a straight friend, for example, whom I've been roommates with for six years (college and after we both moved to NYC). We're best friends, and six years is a long time to live with someone, especially if you've met them at 18. Obviously we are not attracted to each other sexually, but that doesn't prevent a friendly intimacy to exist.

I think that should be the model for gay men. To find a person who can truly be your friend - a relationship that starts out romantically, and then move on to something else. You can both live together, be intimate with each other and occasionally have sex. But both need to understand that sometimes both have a need for variety (without necissarilly emotional involvement).

Yeah i agree with you there. It might have been so big of a crush that it would make you think that you did love him. But in reality, its almost impossible to be in love with someone who you have barely even spoken to. You make like them alot, but not love. If both sides dont share the same mutual feelings , there's no love there.

I think you can fall in love with a close friend. I mean a really close friend. So close that all you are missing is the physical aspect of the relationship. I've been there, most of us have. Unrequited love has to be the cruelest part of life. It hurts, so damn much.

i think of by utilising "real love", we actually advise a supernatural love. without God, all love can probable be is an emotion/feeling engendered with the aid of a shot of expertise-good drugs provided by utilising the senseless ability of evolution with the consequence that we are controlled. without God, love is taken under consideration one of those slavery to a drug dependancy.

Real love is always two way. Otherwise it's infactuation