Cheating and domestic violence....?

The promises to stop the DV works out until they get comfortable again. Then it starts all over again. The root of the problem as to WHY they behave this way is not being dealt with, hence the individual do not have any real power to permanently change.

Divine intervention may help, depends on whether the individual is even willing to admit to having a problem.

Personally.

When I got to the point of acceptance that he might be willing to change, but is incapable of that change unless he does it for him not for me. It became a situation I could have dealt with.

I had a choice to either accept the fact that it may very well happen again or refuse to endure this. It was very HARD to do - there were kids involved.

I chose to move on. We are both happier. I am definitely healthier!! lol.

There was a no tolerance on the cheating part from day one. If it happened I still don't know about it. I learned to forgive ( which is important ) and genuinely wish him all the best.

My father was an abuser in EVERY way up to the day he died.

My wife cheated on me about three years ago. We seem to have gotten past it, although I confess I still struggle from time to time, even though I really have no reason to suspect anything is amiss. It's been a long road, but I refuse to allow the family we've built to become a statistic because of bad choices, bad advice and the struggles of raising a family in general. I'm not surprised so many marriages crash and burn these days. It's very hard to make it work, but I aspire to have a marriage like my grandparents, who have been together sixty-five years. I love my wife and what she did hurt. I can't deny it. Should it ever happen again, I will disappear. There are still issues, but we're working them out together; fighting for our marriage instead of fighting each other.

I've never heard of domestic violence stopping. But, one of my very best friends cheated on her husband once several years ago. She told him about it and they decided to stay together. I know for a fact that she has not cheated since.

A spouse that cheats is left behind. No second chances EVER!

Domestic violence? Say good bye after the first slap. No second chances there either...EVER!

my parents got divorced because of cheating and domestic violence,

my dad cheated on her a couple of times and even had a couple of kids with different women but as his 4 major kids grew older he stopped.and my dad use to hit my older bro a lot and my mom a couple of times but when i got older he just stopped.

i think because he was young and didnt understand well and because i was geting older and he didnt want me to see him doing something wrong.

I still believe, if proven, adultery (cheating) should be illegal, but since marriage involves church, I think it will conflict with the seperation of church and state, which sucks.

DV stops when they die. Cheaters stop, well, never. These are pretty incurable problems.