Wife who changed her mind and doesn't want kids anymore?

Maybe she found out she can't have kids, or is testing to see whether you love her more than the thought of having kids. If she won't talk about it, you have serious communication issues...the kind that will either break up your marriage, or send you to counseling.

You have to keep trying to talk to her. Maybe now that you're getting closer to when you originally planned to have children she's feeling anxious or scared about the whole thing. Having children is a huge decision, and as a pregnant woman, I honestly think you don't really make up your mind until the decision is directly in front of you. Maybe she's afraid of how it will affect your lives. Or maybe how it will be with both of you in the military and having children, that can sometimes be a difficult situation. After the holidays, sit down and talk to her. Tell her you're not going to leave her, but that you're concerned with why her mind suddenly changed. Be the concerned and loving husband she needs you to be and she will eventually open up. Some of us women just need some time before we can actually talk.

She needs to give you a reason. If her reason is that she never really wanted them in the first place, then she deceived you into marrying her. That's not good.

I suspect that this is the case because she keeps asking if you are going to leave her. I would imagine that if she really wanted kids, but then learned that she couldn't have them, you leaving her would never be a question.

You deserve an explanation as to why she "changed her mind". And she needs to give you one.

before everything, you could no longer rigidity him to have little ones. in case you do, you will possibly be able to lose him or worse yet, place your babies under a father that doesn't choose them. you're VERY youthful... many people have little ones of their overdue 30's now. you have varied time to enable him technique this. the ideal element you're able to do is teach which you place him first. i will assist you comprehend for particular that in case you lose ANY pastime in intercourse with out little ones, he will in no way believe you. it rather is the 1st element to bypass. in case you could sustain intercourse and time at the same time... yet in general intercourse... whilst issues get busy and in no way have an excuse for no longer being there, he will study to believe you. If, even nevertheless, some journey makes it so as which you do no longer shop issues going, then he will in no way believe you. enable's say your mom gets ill and you spend lots time along with her which you have intercourse under as quickly as a week. an primary newborn would be as lots artwork as a ill mom... he will then comprehend you will no longer make certain you stick with your priorities. believe me, in case you could say 'nicely, it rather is basically for some months' and enable intercourse fall to guard your mom, then you fairly are not honest through fact existence will become a chain of 'basically for some months' and in case you could no longer make it take place besides, you will never. intercourse and your relationship will consistently be waiting for the emergency to end. yet earlier that one ends, there is often yet one extra reason so which you could use to place a carry on issues. I had a son have an anuerism that required years of well being facility journeys alongside with seizures and meds... surgical technique and tests... my different son exchange into blown up in Iraq and has PTSD. Grandparents, mum and dad and fiends have died, jobs have been lost, illnesses and emergencies piled up... once you're making an excuse in simple terms as quickly as... you will in no way come back to it. 26 years of marriage and we in no way did... in simple terms waiting for this next emergency to end and then we can resume... yet we will not.

If she never wanted kids I would take her not wanting kids seriously. Because she used to want kids and now doesn't maybe its a temporary stage shes going through. You need to tell her having kids is a big deal to you and when you married her you thought it was a big deal to her too.

She needs to give you an explanation! It's like a breach of contract. Something must have happened that she's not telling you. But if she really doesn't want kids and you do, I guess it's over.

It seems like she may be looking for a way out. You two need to have a heart to heart to find out what's going on.

sounds like maybe you need to counsel on this matter..since this is a deep and serious in planning a family

if she changed her mind...most likely it will change back. Maybe she is testing you. which is pretty dumb. but whatever. keep working at it but if some years go by maybe you should really decide what ur next step is.

You decide if you can live with that or not. You also decide if you can take a woman that will not talk to you when things come up.