Would you continue in this marriage?

The guy runs away from a bad time like a scared rabbit. You're right it's no way to live. In a situation like that with a spouse with such baggage and a yellow streak its time to just leave for good and find some kind of peace and solitude. Notice I didn't say happiness...thats elusive. Hopefully you find it though. Forget the counseling...it works with some people but alot of people know its some dope saying crap that you can't really relate to anyway (whether its the crap being said or the person you see). Good luck moving on.

I'm not for divorce in most cases. Try this. The next time he leaves, you leave too, go to your parents, friends, or someone you can trust to help you. When you're not there when he shows back up, and he can't find you, then he might start realizing that he needs you. If you want to you can wait the same amount of time that he was gone after he comes back before you contact him. You set the time frame that you want him calling you, (don't answer) and looking all over for you, and missing you and when you think he has had enough, contact him and agree to meet him in a place you have already decided on. You choose the time and place and tell him that if he'll agree to stop leaving like this, you'll meet him, otherwise he's history. Be sure to pick a spot to talk where there are plenty of people around in case he becomes aggressive. Don't go back to him if you don't believe he is willing to change. I wish you the best.

You don't know how much he earns? Wow...that's kind of odd. sounds to me that your marriage died years ago. You are young enough (my age) to go out and fine happiness and live life. It sounds kinda sad really. Neither of you sound very thrilled with each other. Either with this new guy, or someone else, you might be able to live a life that makes you happy. Divorces happen. Follow your heart and do what makes you happy. But in all honesty...I got a divorce (different reasons), but I'm truly happy where I am in my life now, and know deep down, I would not have been if I didn't leave. I think when you have to ask advise from people you don't know, its more of a reassuring feeling that what you are thinking about doing is the right choice. I've been there hun!

No, I'd end it and REAL fast. The longer you waste your time with him, the longer it'll be before you can meet the man you deserve! If he's doing s hit like that, and not even answering his phone, chances are he's also playing the field himself, which could be his whole reason for "causing an argument" so he CAN go play, you know? Leave him NOW, BEFORE you all do have children together. He'd also make an aweful father acting like he is. You deserve MUCH better. Good luck.

Its totally up to you! If you should stay or leave! Its like " Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you will get in the box!" The same goes for some marriages! So spouse's go thru lots of hell on earth and still stay with the husband or wife for many yrs suffering, because of he or she loving with their hearts and then won't let go! Its like everybody's marriage DESTINY or FATE is different in life! Some spouse's are more blessed than others! Thats just life! LIke me! My marriage life with my wife is extremely far from perfect, but yet I manage to stay in and just make the best of it! Also some men or women are more stronger than others and get out of an unsucessful marriage life! These others take extreme control of their future life or destiny and eventually find someone else. A much better happiness- a positive growing marriage future.

Obviously there is a problem. How do people get themselves into these types of relationships. Was there no signs prior to getting married? Your right when you say this is no way to live. Screw the counseling and just leave and not come back.

I could tell you to try counseling because it worked for me, but both people have to be willing to go. With that being said, I feel like you have already made up your mind and I only have to look at your last sentence to see that. You have to do what is best for you and what makes you happy.

You haven't been married that long. I wouldn't give up so easily. If he leaves because of his temper, he's probably afraid he's going to hurt you and he doesn't want to do that. If it isn't that, then maybe his temper is just an excuse to go out and cheat on you. I hope that's not it. I would try to find out what he's doing the time he's gone.

i wouldn't. what kind of relationship is that? it is a good thing you have no kids or anything with him, because you can just leave and have no ties with him. do you want to be miserable for the rest of your life? and you have no idea what he is really doing when he is gone, he will never tell you the truth, i hate liars, that is not a good relationship based on any values or morals

That's unacceptable. If counseling doesn't work, then leave him. Does he have a girlfriend or mental problems? Either way, just make sure you are safe.