Sensible answers only please; alcoholism - what stage is he at, and how long do I have left with him?

Question

My mom and I have thought my dad was an alcoholic for some time. They split up 18 months ago when she finlly left him. I don't blame her, I probably wouldn't have lasted the 30 years she did.
I recently went on holiday to a caravan with him and my daughter. Whilst we were there I noticed how he's getting worse.
His eyes are yellow, his skin is jaundiced, his urine smells very strong (I went to the loo after him) he doesn't have solid bowel movements any more (I heard whilst i was in the next room). He doesn't eat, on more than one occassion he only had two piecs of toast all day.On the occassion that he did try to eat a meal he was immediately sick (I mean immediately).
He drinks about 12 cans of weak lager a day, but won't drink strong lager or spirits as he says he's not an alcoholic.
What I'd like to know is what stage is he in, and how long do I have left with him? I have given up nagging him, as it's a fruitless exercise whilst he's still in denial. Plese don't reply with a message that slags him off, he's my dad - and if you do I'll report you for not answering the question.

many thanks to those of you who do answer properly.

Anonym · Accepted Answer

Your right your dad is in denial, this will probably continue until he 
falls further into his problem.

If he continues to drink and not eat it wont take that long
less than a year. Unless he asks for help, its practically
impossible to make him do anything against his will.

Its known as tough love. If you can be there for him when
he asks for help that would be great,but iam afraid you've
got to have the patience of a saint.

Its not just alcoholics who attend meetings, but people who live with the problem as well.

I wish you the best of everything on your journey.

Anonym · Answer

I do have first hand experience of this as i lived with an alcoholic for ten years. He died when he was 35. Your dad is an alcoholic but the thing that concerns me is the fact he doesnt eat. 

That will ultimately kill him because the stomach acid will rot his stomach and he'll eventually bleed to death. He sounds as though he's at the advanced stage. When my ex was at that stage he lived for another 6 - 7 months and he suffered terribly.

I hope you don't go through that with your dad as it is utterly life destroying to watch.

Anonym · Answer

From your description your dad sounds like he is very seriously ill.Try get him to see a Dr,only then can an assessment of the extent of the damage be known and any appropriate treatment started if there is any.

Chris · Answer

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Tony C · Answer

Unfortunately he may not have long left. I knew a feller who was similar, it was sad to see what he was doing to himself. The last time I saw him I told myself that it would probably be the last time I saw him and I was right, he died 2 days later. I hope you have a happier ending.

Anonym · Answer

Well the yellowness would indicate serious liver trouble. His body is a wreck. BUT, he is getting no medical treatment. He could die in weeks. WITH medical treatment, he could save himself and live years.

I think his UNTREATED liver is failing.

bets · Answer

Please contact me though facebook as toni hackett previously known as george and i can talk privatly as i have similar situation as yourself

Sensible answers only please; alcoholism - what stage is he at, and how long do I have left with him?

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