Would you let an 8 year old jump on your $1000 bed?

No.

Bounderies are important in any relationship.

Well when I was 8 years old I was jumping on a bed at a friends house because my parents wouldn't let me jump on the bed at home. Then I fell off the bed and broke my arm and had to have surgery, stay in the hospital for 3 days, had two metal pins in my arm, a scar that is 5 inches long and go through months of physical therapy.

So I would say no. It scares the crap out of me to see a kid jumping on the bed!

Yes. It's just a bed. If you spent $1000 on the mattress and box spring, which would be kinda normal, it ought to be just right for jumping, and he's not going to damage the wood/metal/whatever if that's what's so fancy.

My opinion is that kids destroy things and you get nice furniture after they grow up. I had a $2000 sofa - WHITE sofa - when I got married. You can imagine what 3 kids and a dog did to it, but that's life with kids.

I sympathize with you in that I also tried to teach my kids more respect for my things than my ex-wife insisted on, and it can be a source of conflict. It's not a big deal to say, get off, go jump on your own bed. Or, don't jump on the bed. My first thought was just that kids like jumping on beds, always have, wish I still did, and I wouldn't make a big deal out of it.

Well..it seems like your problem is more than just the bed and the jumping situation. First off....an 8 year old kid weighs how much? ....Second...beds just don't "break". I think your problem is that she's not YOUR daughter...she's your husband's...so you're just overreacting a little bit. If my daughter was jumping on the bed...I would tell her to stop because I'd be worried she might hurt herself...I wouldn't be concerned about how much my bed was and that she might break it....(and my bed was over 3000). So that explains why your husband probably got mad....because you were probably complaining about the cost of the bed and etc etc...instead of being motherly and worrying about her safety first. Kids are kids....and they don't have long to be a worrysome careless child....so let the girl have a little fun..if you don't like the bed thing...just tell her not to because she might get hurt...and introduce her to a new fun activity.

You sound like a wicked old step mother.

"My husband- lets his kid jump on MY bed"

Perhaps you should start considering a divorce because there are going to be more serious issues that will come up later, besides a child jumping on the bed.

I 'd be worried that the child might bounce off and break his / her neck. More then I would care about the child breaking a $1000 bed.

The child is his

The bed is yours

And your married???

(I got the ideal that the child is from another)

But, still you are sounding like a wicked step mother.

HIS kid... YOUR bed. I wouldn't let an 8 year old jump on a $5 bed. Sounds like a power struggle to me, and you're the pawn. When the father is not around, get in the kid's face and tell him/her to knock it off or you'll make sure s/he doesn't jump on furniture ever again. If Dad says something about it, tell him to discipline his kid or YOU will, and make him sleep elsewhere that's much less comfortable for a few nights.

Tell him that the song 10 little monkeys jumping on the bed says

"One fell down and broke his head" and even the doctor said "No more monkeys jumping on the bed".

Have your husband buy a trampulene or something if his child wants to jump. It's not very safe but if he thinks his child jumping on a bed is, at least he can have his kid still jump and leave your bed alone! Good luck!

First I wouldn't let any kid jump on any bed. Rather it's $1000 or $100 if the kids falls and breaks his or her arm,leg,neck etc.... you'll be think about allot more than some $1000 bed. Don't be so greedy, if you had $1000 to spend on a bed then you should have another $1000 to spend on a new one. A broken body part should be more important. tell your "wise" husband to wake up and smell the blood!

The fact you have requested he have his child stop bouncing on the bed and he has ignored that request is showing disrespect to you. He should respect your feelings and wishes on the matter, not simply ignore them and you. You have an equal say in the marriage. It sounds like you have done the right thing by not disciplining his child from a previous marriage. It is very difficult to be a step parent, and it is of vital importance the new step parent allow the biological parent do all of the disciplining initially. As the relationship grows the step parent can begin to have more of a say with the children. In the meanwhile, you did exactly what you should have done and that is ask the child's father to have his son stop bouncing on the bed.

The value of the bed is not at issue. What is at issue is you requested the child not jump on the bed, and the father of that child, your husband, has refused to comply with your wishes. This is straight up disrespect towards you.

If he cannot respect you on such a simple matter he must be disrespecting you in much larger issues. I think your issue here is not the child, or the bouncing, (though the child needs to stop) but the fact your husband does not respect you nor show any concern for your opinions, feelings or needs.

I think it time you put your foot down. It is time for you to figure out when your husband began losing respect for you and why. Once you figure this out you can begin to correct it.

However, unless you married a man who has never shown you respect, you cannot simply demand respect. Any relationship confers an initial amount of respect, and then as the relationship grows each party of that relationship either earns that level of respect or does not earn it, and additional levels of respect are earned, or lost, through the behaviors of each party.

So, again, unless you married a man who has never respected you, it is important and critical you locate the point where he lost respect for you.

You then work from that point. You begin to behave in manners which earn his respect. Earning respect back is harder than earning it before it was lost. But, it isn't hopeless. It is important for you to discuss this issue with your husband and if need be you should apologize for any wrongs you have done in the past which caused him to lose respect for you.

However, he also has a responsibility to you to give a 100% attempt to allow you to re-earn his respect. In the meanwhile he needs to stop allowing his child to jump on the bed. If you explain to him that you want to work on your issues and past behavior patterns, to correct behaviors which led to his lost respect, he will respond. If you really listen to him, and let him know you heard him, he will begin to listen to you too.

Too many people do not know how to truly communicate with other people. They talk at each other instead of with each other. When one person is speaking and the other is busy thinking of what they will say in response,and vise verse, nobody is heard and nothing is ever resolved. Each feels totally unheard and resentments grow and can break a marriage.

Here is a website about how to Fight Fair and other marital issues:

http://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/fighti...

Here is a website about marital issues:

http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/relational_main...

Good luck and please have a nice day.

I'm of the school that the eight year old should have his legs broken and not the bed.

Your husband is an idiot. Beds aren't made to jump on. Not by kids anyway. Maybe when junior takes a bounce and goes teeth first into the bedpost or headboard and has to have extensive detal work your dimwit hubby will see the errors of his way.

I wouldn't let an 8 year old jump on my $100 bed! Kids that need to do that type of stuff should go to Chuckie Cheese! You might think about renting one of those jump houses that blow up with air!