How many people believe "Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater" and why? Have you had this happen to you?

I believe it in most cases. Maybe there are a few random men that made ONE mistake only but that wasn't my experience.

I had 2 exes that cheated on me. One of them cheated WITH me when he was engaged to another woman but I didn't know it at the time & of course he cheated on me as well.. Duh.

The other one was a man whore & I knew it. What was I expecting?

My husband has never cheated on anyone & is still friends with his exes. Most women don't like that but I do. The fact that they respect him enough to want him as a friend says something to me. He never hurt them. If his exes were trying to light him on fire I would worry LOL!

I believe once a cheater never again with me, everyone can change but if they already have it in their minds that they know how to not get caught this time then i do believe it will happen again. It doesnt matter ne ways b/c as most women will tell you we never forget **** and we never truly forgive, its always in the back of our minds. I would never stay with anyone who cheated on me b/c trust is the most important thing and if that ever happened i know at least for me i could never fully trust that person again. So there would be no point in trying

I used to believe it. I do not anymore. I think anyone can change, but they have to want to. Contrary to the "options" answer that one guy said -- People who do not cheat do not lack in their "options".... they just have different decision making skills and choose to take different paths.

I will use Ron and Don for examples. Both are former Cheaters. Don made a commitment to himself and his wife -- be faithful. Ron and Don both attend a friend's Super Bowl party. Don's wife is out of town. There are lots of people there that they both know and don't know. Attractive women, unattractive women. Ron and Don are both fairly attractive.

After a few beers, Don goes down the hall to find the restroom. He meets Sherri. Sherri is clearly hitting on Don. Don does not take the bait. He smiles, and makes casual conversation while waiting on the restroom. Once it is possible, he uses the restroom and gets back to the party. Ron is in the corner making out with Carrie, while they dance to the music that has now been turned on, instead of the game.

When Don returns, Sherri comes over to him and asks him to dance... Don declines, saying that he needs to get home. He finds Ron, and lets him know he is leaving... tells the host goodbye and gets home.

Now, Don could have done anything he wanted. Wifey was out of town... Sherri is a virtual stranger. Don made a choice. He chose NOT to take the bait that could have ended in a situation that he was committed to staying away from. Is he missing out on anything by leaving the party early? No. He is keeping a commitment that he made to himself and his wife. Half the battle is just keeping yourself out of sticky situations. Being committed to someone or some relationship does not relieve you of having options. On the contrary -- men with wedding rings get hit on way more than men with no ring on. It's like a challenge for some women.

it is absolutely true. if you let them come back, then what consequences have they endured for their actions? none. so if there are no consequences, then why not do it again? feeling bad and being "sorry" doesnt count as a consequense. they knew they could lose you when they did it and are only sorry when they get caught or hink someone is going to tell on them.

depends. If it is someone you have dated and they have cheated on you, then yes.

But if it is someone you've just started dating and your hearing rumors of their past, then its a no go. Can't judge each relationship on that persons past, to many variables.

i dont believe its always the case but then again i dont believe it should happen even the once, it would be history if it did you should treat people the way you want treating in my book thats remaining faithful.

I don't agree with that--I believe that people change if they really set their mind to it and that people can make mistakes and then realize the magnitude of their mistake and change accordingly. I wouldn't judge someone entirely by one decision that they make.

not once, but if they continually cheat, they will continue to cheat on YOU , there is probably a underlying problem, you may want to consult a counselor or minister.

no i dont believe that. yes it has happened to me. we became christians and it changed our lives.

It's true. They will just hurt you over and over again.