Are you Happy in Your Marriage?

That's what I wanted to know when my ex filed for divorce he was selfish and I wasn't what's up with that....

Luv2help said enough.

You cant assume that all people who divorced did so because of selfish reasons. In some instances both are better off for they are happier divorced and are better parents to their kids because of it. People dont just get a divorce because they couldnt 'hack it', they didn't just quit when it came to the 'better or worse' part. Sometimes it takes courage to get a divorce and get out there on your own again, especially after being in an abusive marriage for several years. It would be ignorant for someone to believe that all divorcees did so because they were just concerened about their own happiness.

ditto what luv2help said.

congrats to you for acheiving your own happiness but dont make such generalized statements on here for those of us who werent as fortunate as you.

That was very thoughtful.People go ahead and make their own dream land and then when reality strikes everything disappears.But you know what,It happens when we start taking each other as granted.One thing we should have very clear in our mind no one can make us happy or sad,it's inside us how we feel,others may contribute to it.If you want to have a successful relationship learn to live for others.When you give someone something they might not pay you back but at least cannot hurt you.It's not easy but everything in thing in this world has a cost.Remember do not expect from others.If you can't make yourself happy no one can make you.Live and let others live.Everyone got their own opinion don't interfere even if they are wrong ,if you feel you may tell them once and let them go.No one like limitations.

This is a very broad statement. You can't categorize every marriage in the same way. some people aren't happy because they have an abusive marriage, some marriages have infidelity, some marriages have verbal abuse and some are dealing with substance abuse, gambling problems and some people just fall out of love. Get over yourself and be happy if you are happy, but don't judge any one for getting out their feelings if they aren't happy.

You're right, no marriage is happy all the time.

But some marriages are abusive, intolerable, toxic and unhealthy for everyone involved, including children. People who leave such marriages are not "just concerned about their own happiness"; they are running for their lives and often their children's lives as well. They are brave, and do not deserve to be maligned.

I wanted "Better or for Worse" but i had an abusive marriage so i left 2 years ago after 10 years

You're right, marriage has ups and downs, just like life has ups and downs. You have to have a general commitment and respect for one another to get through the "down" times.

Our marriage is happy all the time! I didn't think a marriage could be like this but it is FABULOUS!

Good Question.

I am happy with my woman !! She watches Porn with me !! I aint going anywhere !!