If you had the chance to win back her heart, what would you do?

Wooaaahhhh, that's a real tricky one, I would say time and pateience as to be that hurt she really does love you, but she probably doesn't want to admit that to herself yet, don't go over the top with gestures as I don't think that will work but do enough so that she realises you are taking this seriously......I don't know, I know what I would do to you tho but that's not really going to help!!!!....Maybe try being the person she originally fell in love with, I know that sounds daft but we all change during the course of a relationship. Again time patience and above all TLC but not completely over the top.

Good luck xxxx ;-)

If you really did love her, why hurt her so much?? (bearing in mind i don't know what you did but have a pretty good idea)

Do you really want to get back with her etc because you love her? or is it just guilt? If it is love, it will take a long time to gain that trust back. How long have you been together? Prove your new commitment to her. Do you see yourself with this woman for the rest of your life? Is that what YOU want. If that's too soon for you or your not comfortable with it, Why not ask her to come away with you-a holiday (as friends, no strings attached)

Tell her that your are really sorry about your sins that you want to change and need her support to improve yourself. Allow her to be your counselor, discuss in length about your shortcomings and ways to overcome it. Even if she refuses to cooperate, Change yourself gradually and let her feel the difference. She will certainly cooperate once you regain the faith. Have patience, it will take some time but the bonding that develop in the process is much more than winning the heart. Enjoy it. All the best.

If you think closer, if she's back with you, she'll have problem trusting you. You may feel its only abit of discomfort, you asked for it becoz of what you have done in the past. But to her, its still torture to be with someone she can't trust. I would suggest for you to let go, and protect her as a friend. I understand when we are in love with someone we always hope most to be the one to give her happiness. But sometimes, we aren't the one. We don't have a choice but to choose to love without possession.

Hope you remember this lesson and stop being her room mate. Seeing her too often will weaken your control over your emotions.

wow - good luck figuring that one out.

I'd say that if she had any self-worth whatsoever, there's nothing you could do and she's already emotionally moved on from you.

But, just in case she hasn't, it's pretty simple: Quit being a jerk, and then make sure to scrutinize EVERY move you make to see if it's condusive to a positive relationship with her. If it's something that will hurt her, be a man for once and let her go w/out further humiliating her.

For starters, NEVER do it again. The thing that will win back her trust is a great deal of patient persistence in being completely unselfish. This could take a very long time.

Talk to her ...Tell her what you did .Be honest then she will understand better ... she is not above fault but that should not be discussed during your honest apology. Her faults will be discussed at a later date .Focus on what you did. Tell her just like you told us. Baby steps ...always take baby steps & don't talk down to her .Good communication is a must.

i would say be yourself but that has'nt worked hmmm!!! take stock of yourself and findout why you did the things you did.