Honest answers from people who have cheated?

i have no idea whether your BF is honest or not. but i know one thing. once confidence is lost it can't be recovered, and you'll always be worried about him cheating on you again, no matter what, that's why i personally don't recommend proceeding with such relations, even if both of you are suitable for each other, lack of confidence can ruin your relation.

Well I think first you should find out why he cheated in the first place, because if something in your relationship drove him to cheat, and nothing has been done to fix it, it may as well happen again. And as for him claiming that he has changed, give him the benefit of the doubt and believe him. If he knows he has your trust, he will be less likely to cheat again. People make mistakes all the time, and if you really love him, you will be able to see through why he cheated, and help him through the relationship, rather than point fingers and doubt him forever.

Sadly I must admit that this has been true in my case. I often try to stay faithful but after about 6 months to 2 years MAX I start feeling bored and need the excitement of the new woman. I think that some men can change. But I think that most who cheat, especially if he's EVER cheated with anyone else ever before... will probably cheat again if they think there's no chance you'll ever find out. If, however, it was a drunken one-nighter... and he was incredibly remorseful and it was out-of-character... maybe he wouldn't cheat again. Go with your gut. If it says you can't trust him... you probably can't. Sorry.

No I dont thing "once a cheater always a cheater" I cheated on my ex with my current man and we've been together for nearly 10 years and Ive never once thought about being with another man... my ex was a jerk though and cheated on me a few times with random girls... I really only cheated on him because I wanted to hurt him the way he did to me all those times. I think you know in your heart whether or not your man is worth being with and trusting... look through his dreamy eyes and find the truth?

P.S EVERY girls scared her man is off with another woman when he's not around... just keep it "hot" with your guy and he'll have no need for other girls!

Well, I haven't cheated, but I have some examples.

My best friend in elementary school's dad cheated on her mom. He got caught. She left. He "changed." She went back. He did it again.

My best friend in middle school: same story, and he married the girl he cheated with.

My uncle was a cheater all throughout his dating life. He married the most beautiful, wonderful woman and stayed loyal (as far as we know) for years. Then, when their daughter was around 2 years old, he cheated, cheated, cheated, cheated, cheated. She left. He remarried. He cheated on her too. She left.

See a pattern?

Let him stay your EX that's all I have to say. When men cheat it's for personal reasons, they don't feel good about them selves so they need all the attention they can get. Or they just LOVE the attention because they SAY there not getting enough at home. But mostly it stems from low self esteem and small penis problems.

If you really want to have to deal with this guys PERSONAL ISSUES! by all means STAY WITH HIM! but GET THERAPY!

Are you really ready to live your life with all that worry and resentment??

If he only cheated once, and you know this for sure then MAYBE it wont happen again, but if he's done this once to many well then no he doesn't plan on changing. Don't let yourself become one of those chicks who just lets it happen over and over. its not nice and diff not safe. Kick him to the corner and don't let him back. It becomes a game to him after awhile, how long can he keep it up before getting caught.

Once bitten, twice shy!

he will continue to cheat on you because he see's that he can... when I was cheatin on my ex and he would keep taking me back that was basically the sign that it was ok.. now the next guy I got with after that I was completely faithful but that was because I had learned my lession.. once a cheat always a cheat really goes to the relationship that's at hand... the next girl he gets with he might not cheat on... he has to learn and by being with you, he most likely wont, you are not showing him that you don't respect yourself enough to leave him for his cheatin :) :) :)

I was in a disloyal and corrupt first marriage for almost 15 years. She was a closet lesbian and a whore. She openly lusted after her cousin, her best friend (woman), her co-workers. She threatened my life and she was proven abusive towards my only child. She went insane and she is in a live-in care facility to receive life-long psychiatric care because she is too unstable to live on her own. Yet in spite of all of that, I tried and I tried. Yes I felt tempted. And I had opportunities to act many times. But each time I resisted and never acted upon my feelings to dump her and run while I was with her. I didn't resist based on so-called "biblical values". I resisted for reasons of my own. That so-called "marriage" collapsed as it should have and now I've remarried. See.....while I was with her, I was being loyal to my words.....I guess I was the only one being loyal. Running away from the problem just didn't strike me as being the sort of thing to do to solve the problem of my corrupt first wife (now my ex). It's just not my native way of doing, of acting. For others I suppose it's easy to justify acting impulsively and feel self pity IF you don't think about the consequences of your actions. But I am a thinking man first and always. When any idea comes to my mind, I immediately tear it apart to see what it's worth. I despise being disloyal to the root values I trust deep inside of me and I don't just up and abandon ship at the first sign of trouble. It's just not my way of seeking continuity in my life by running at the sign of trouble - life is supposed to contain struggle and pain so it's very valuable to learn how to handle it and bear it like a man. But now I've learned that when the ship hits an iceberg, it is unwise to remain aboard while it is sinking. And I advise other men who are also silently suffering miserably in a relationship or marriage to think about my words and reflect on them, see whether their own relationship with their woman is healthy.

I don't believe it's once a cheater always...

I have cheated and been cheated on and all I know for sure is that every relationship is different, our chemistry is different on different days,

God loves us all...

One good man made me straighten up and pay attention.!!!!!