Tolerance in our society?

Be yourself, and to hell with the rest of them.

Anytime we step outside the traditions we are going to be noticed as different simply the way life is... If someone you know came to apply for work and he was wearing a bozo costume would you treat him different? Would you be intolerant?... hey I'm all for freedom of expression but you have to accept the facts that you will be treated different if you act or dress different... just goes with the territory... nothing wrong with being different but if being different is what you truly want then why would you let it bother you that people should treat you different... I do understand that if you dress witchy people will think you are a witch and maybe you aren't... but if you put that across don't blame people for making that connection.

I think when you used the word tolerance here; it means that society agrees not to commit to violence, because it is lawful to dress as you wish as long as its not against the law.

Your pants I hope were good to you and if they were they just know that the way you dress and act is just not totally accepted yet. They know how hard it is to survive in this crazy world, if your over 18, you may want to split your time at work you are the girl/boy next door and your free time your are who you want to be,I have to do the same, If i went to work and told my christian boss, hey man there is no god or Jesus he would loose conference in me and find a way to let me go, so try to understand the difference, use that brain you have and be creative and as for your brother he should accept you as you are no strings attached

While I do not believe in witches or witchcraft, it is indeed a sad society we live in where people are not tolerant of others. Race, culture, ethnicity, personal beliefs -- all of this leads to a rift in society. It's a sad state, but I just like to believe that those who are not tolerant of others are either intimidated by those to which they are intolerant, or they are ignorant fools. I just pray people are guided to be good and kind to others.

People have been brainwashed to think you are evil. Its their problem. The more credit you give them, the more it will bother you. My best advice is not to argue with them, just tell them that you are sorry that they feel that way. Your way of dress doens't cut it in the professinal world. Do you think anyone wants to dress professinal? Heck no. I wish I could wear shirts that show my tattoos at work, but alas, I would lose alot of business that way. When you are around your crowd dress in your personal style. When around people in a setting that you want to make a good first impression, dress professionally and more conservatively. its just what people consider polite kind of like not swearing in front of your grandparents.

Part of the gothic intellect it to deviate from the norm. Once you no longer "look normal" then you'll no longer be treated as normal. And that's the norm of society. It's nothing new in our country. For example, with my generation it was hippies. I grew my hair, wore tie dies, gave peace signs, smoked dope. Did society accept it at the time? NO! So as you reject society it in return rejects you.

Be what and who you want as you have to be happy and true to yourself. Anyone that wants to change you are only thinking of their own image and who the hell cares what any of them think as they do not inhibit your body and feel what you do. That is what makes you unique. I have had to remove all negative people in my life including some family members as I refuse to allow anyone to make my life a living hell. They either love you for you or have them move on. Period. Harsh as it may sound.

Tolerance in society will never happen, we need to understand and accept others before we can tolerate but all too often we demand that others understand and accept us first which is where the break down begins, also we are always demanding that are rights are recognised but we never seem to be able to recognise other people the same rights, for example we often make a judgement call as to whether or not a person should know something, normally because we say we want to avoid hurting them, so we lie to them, but as soon as we find out that someone has lied to us we cannot accept that that person had the right to make a similar judgement call. Perhaps it’s because we demand too many rights and when we see other people doing the same we feel that they are being selfish and not recognising are rights so in turn we do the same and refuse to recognise their right to be selfish, for example, and I’m not even going try to say that I know why your family are the way they are I’m just going to use them as an example, but lets say your mum had ideas for you and say you had lived up to those ideas she would have continued to accept you, thought about you and helped you and therefore not being selfish, she can’t see that she was being selfish by expecting that of you in the first place, all she can see is that she is thinking of you, helping you and accepting you all because you accepted her rights in the first place, but you ended up having your own ideas for yourself and therefore being selfish(there is nothing wrong with being selfish so please don’t think I’m trying to offend you) and because your mum felt offended because you didn’t recognise her right to be selfish first she chose to be selfish by not thinking about you, it could be that she doesn’t understand you and your reasons, maybe she just took it as a personal offence, or maybe doing what you did made her feel certain emotions which she couldn’t deal with and chose to push you away and therefore push away her emotions because avoidance is easier. I personally choose avoidance as it’s so much easier than accepting that every action I might choose could potentially hurt someone and I hate that idea, you see I grew up getting hurt by everyone around me and I always wanted to be someone who was better then that, somebody that never hurt people, but after trial and error I soon realised how hard that was as whatever action you take no mater how good willed, somebody got hurt, if I choose to think about others and put their feelings first then it was I that got hurt, but if I choose to be selfish then others got hurt, neither situation was acceptable to me so I choose the only alternative, isolation, by not socializing with others I can treat everyone as equals without having to worry about their feelings something which is impossible to do if your friends with them. I don’t judge anyone, something I’ve always hated doing because so many people have judged me when I was growing up but whenever I came across people I found myself comparing them to people who caused me so much grief and because I was trying to protect myself I started judging them based on the way they looked or talked which even though I hated doing it it was a natural self defence thing that I just couldn’t stop but it’s not something I need to worry about anymore. So unless you can put up with extreme loneliness just except that people are only human and most of them don’t mean you any harm intentionally it’s just that they want to avoid harm first and even though it is being selfish, what is so wrong with being selfish? After all everyone does it!

i don't see anything wrong with being who you are. maybe there could be a balance. if it's the clothing that bothers your brother maybe you could wear what he considers to be "regular" clothes when you see him. and the rest of the time wear what you want. i hurt for you because i can't imagine my life without my brothers or the rest of my family in it. blessed be.

I just read the first of that. Human's are herd animals, we like to run with humans that look like us, and anything not like us scares us, and what scares us, we shun. It's wrong, and you would think we would get over it, but I guess it's not coming in mine and your lifetime. Personally I like goth ladies.

I understand your pain but only you can decide if you are strong enough to handle the situation. Try finding a support group if that will help. But try to be true to yourself.