What does having a gender feel like?

Question

I'm agender and to be honest I don't really understand gender. I know it must be an experience or people wouldn't talk about it so much, but i'd like to understand.

Asking cis, trans and nonbinary people.

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It feels like nothing. For me, it's just there. I don't notice my parts. Sure, there are the societal roles you get pushed into or people think you should participate in, but that's all based on body parts. For gender...I've never thought about it. It's there, I like dresses, but I also like pants. I exist, but I don't feel anything regarding my parts, either happiness or disphoria. If you're transgender, I'm guessing it's the difference between your brain and your body that makes you feel "wrong" and extra-conscious of your body parts. Then again, all of this is coming from a teenager and at that a teen who has no experience in most of these things. I've tried out a pronoun dressing room (they/their/them, him/his/he), and it felt a little weird, but mostly because I don't really talk about myself in the third person.