I had to tell a secret of one person to another person?

Since your bf will likely be needed to help your friend too, it is unlikely the secret would have been intact much longer anyway. I've been in a relationship a lot longer. I keep secrets. My bf knows it. He can't seem to keep them from me. I don't quiz him, he just feels compelled to tell me so that I don't become suspicious. Even though, I'm not a jealous person to start with.

It was much more difficult for him. He is a jealous person by nature. He was always sure that I had engaged in sex with my friends....even though it simply wasn't true. It took several years for him to form a relationship with them and realize that we have always been just great friends. At 2.5 years, I would have needed to discuss why I was spending so much time with a gay male friend too. At that amount of time, a partner just doesn't know who he can trust around you, and who is really trying to start an affair, or break you up. Mine always imagined they were trying to get me back into running wild with them, or trying to set me up with someone else. Which, in the gay community is very common. Until the friends you have are friends both of you know very well, an explanation will usually be called for in a situation such as yours. Your friend should understand that fact.

That being written, you should be the person to discuss with your friend that you decided to discuss his problem with your bf. Your bf is your partner. Some things you just need to discuss to avoid the problems jealousy, and the insecurity a fledgling relationship, cause. Tell him your bf is trustworthy, and will not discuss the confidential information with anyone but you. It might to help to let him know that your bf is concerned for his health and feels badly for him too.

Later on, it would be a good idea to discuss with your partner that you each might keep a secret from time to time, that doesn't have anything to do with your relationship. My bf's siblings and parents all discuss things with me about their health and personal lives, that I don't talk to him about. So do most of our friends. He knows they do. I also tell my bf that if they ask me something personal that he doesn't want discussed, I just tell them that he has asked me not to talk about it. It took my bf and his family several years to understand what my friends already knew. I can keep a secret and give advice and help. I'm where I say I will be, and with who. I do what I say I will do. That being written, I go where decide to go, including on a vacation away from him from time to time with a friend or one of his siblings. It took him a long time to accept the fact that he doesn't own me or control me. Sometimes he has to be reminded that I live in a free country and can say whatever I decide to open my trap and spout out. I hope the two of you can work all that out too.

In addition to the above, here's a few tips. Keep separate checking accounts. Each pay half, and never try to weasel out of paying your share. Discuss major purchases to make sure you both can afford them. Discuss vacation plans. Keep your sexual and body information private...that is something sacred and personal between the two of you. It makes your relationship special and personal. It is one of the first deeply personal secrets you share.

If you're all good friends then I'm sure it wouldn't matter. Even if the guy you was meant to keep a secret for heard about it. I'm sure he wouldn't care as he's also friends with your partner.