Is it bad to on purposely lose my personality to fit in? Opinions please :)?

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Im a unique person, i have my own style and tastes etc for example i like debating and discussing theories. I dont like following trends or people. I dont like all the hype and fads coming from shows like geordie shore and all that - in fact i hate it with a passion . . . but most people at my uni especially seem to be into all that. Its made it pretty hard to make friends i can relate to. Im not a festival freak, not a wild party girl nor am i part of the "it" crowd . . . i just see them as annoying wayward sheep tbh but they sure as hell seem to have lots of friends. I have friends but its a small circle. Itd be nice to have a bigger circle of buddies to talk to and go on party holidays and all that with.

Im studying to specialise in consumer Psychology. Ive found that when people are expose to things often they'll being to like it - which explains why people all of a sudden just like celebs who are in the media a lot.

I guess i want opinions on whether i should expose myself to all these shows a lot and follow it to become more like everyone else or should i just hang in there and be myself?

Im studying to specialise in consumer Psychology. Ive found that when people are expose to things often they'll being to like it - which explains why people all of a sudden just like celebs who are in the media a lot. 
I guess i want opinions on whether i should expose myself to all these shows a lot and follow it to become more like everyone else or should i just hang in there and be myself?

? · Accepted Answer

No, just for a few more friends.. No really.. Especially if you're only doing it to get more friends who are in to those things.. Then those wouldn't be real friendships.. Just be happy for the friendships you have now, and appreciate those around you.. Because all you're saying is I want to exchange my individuality to get more friends because you guys just aren't enough.. Also I'm pretty sure you can find friends who you can relate to without conforming yourself, unless your college is that small..

Deduction · Answer

Trying new things and exposing yourself to what's out there shouldn't change who you are fundamentally. Some may view those who refuses to do it as close minded.

If you like debate then you should know that you can't debate unless you know the pros and the cons. Also, that the most interesting debates don't have a right or wrong answer. You can choose to not like something but you can still have an interesting conversation with those who like it if you can give a proper reasoning to why you don't like it.

You never know, maybe as you expose yourself to all these things, you might find a liking to something you never expected you would.

allnamestaken · Answer

I don't think you should. Are you being bullied by people to "fit in"? If not, then just focus on your circle of friends, however small it may be. Work on building closer friendships with them if you haven't already. They could introduce you to some similar-minded people who share your interests! 
   As for trying to befriend the "it" crowd---don't call them the "it" crowd to begin with. :-) Treat them as you would treat folks in your circle. You might find that some of them feel the same way you do! And if they don't seem to like you, move right along. It's not worth it to cross oceans for someone who wouldn't jump puddles for you! Good luck!

? · Answer

When you stand before God on judgement day. Will it be you or the one the world made you into?

Anonym · Answer

Bad idea. Always be yourself hun. Fake smells like sh*t lol.

Is it bad to on purposely lose my personality to fit in? Opinions please :)?

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