A gay guy doesn't like me:why...I'm a girl?

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Hey guys, so there's this guy at my work and his gay and I don't think he likes me. When he says hi to me it's always in a cold tone but to everyone else he says it w/ so Much enthusiasm.  When I walk he gives me this look/stare. I can just sense something isn't right. Now I'm trying to put the pieces together; I am attractive(not cocky just mentioning a factor) I'm talk,slim,long full waves hair etc. everyone at my work compliments me, pays me a lot of attention, guys flirt, some already asked me out, some are trying etc. the girls there see that n kinda keep a distance from me. But what they don't understand is that I'm so down to earth, I don't think I'm better than anyone n I'm so thankful tht ppl treat me well. I'm not rude, I don't walk like I run ishh stc. So why doesn't this gay guy like me. Can anyone apply a reason why? I'm so confused. Is it bc I attract a lot of attention, could he be jealous but I'm a girl and his gay, it doesn't click together. Does he not like my type?

_Ryan_ · Answer

He has a resentment. I doubt it's jealousy, because healthy gay guys don't chase straight guys.

Maybe someone told him you are Mormon or hate gay people.

I'd take him aside and say, "I like to be friendly with all of my coworkers. Do you feel like we are friendly with each other, or is something wrong?"

His response will either be, "Everything is fine," or, "well, something is bothering me."

Either conversation should lead to friendliness.

Otherwise, either you're not telling the whole story or he's an a$$hole. I hate to admit it, but some gay guys can be just as rotten as some straight guys.

Mark · Answer

Because not everybody likes everybody else.  Did you think differently?  If so, why?  Do YOU like everybody?

Anonym · Answer

Fatty Hatty has stated a plausible scenario.

But it's also possible it has nothing to do with him being gay.

Anonym · Answer

Maybe he thinks you're vain

Campbell Hayden · Answer

Plain & Simple:

The gay guy has been watching and wanting someone at work .... who is straight, and watching *you*.

He can*t stand you for that.

Anonym · Answer

Fatty hatty is right

"He's jealous.  Some dude he wants to pork is paying attention to you not him. Maybe it's a bi guy who used to gay flirt with the gay catty guy."

speakoutpierre · Answer

Not everybody fit with you, neither with me. 
Even if you were a gay male, he could ignore you.
Even if you are slim, cute, smart and whatever, even an hetero could ignore you.

We don't have enough knowledge of your personal interactions with him to tell you what is not clicking between both of you. It doesn't have to be great with all staff.

april ludgate · Answer

maybe because you keep freaking equating who he is with the fact he's gay.
you do realize his sexual orientation doesn't define him in the way you keep describing him right?

he's not just a guy.
he's a "gay guy"

do people have to start calling you straight girl from now on

A gay guy doesn't like me:why...I'm a girl?

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