My finace is being deceitful and disgusting...?

A lot of men look at other women and as long as they look but don't touch most women let them get on with it. I have never caught my fiancé looking at another women let alone talk to any except for friends so I can understand how hurt you are. Have you spoke to him? Ask him how he would feel if it was the other way round!! Tell being engaged means you are committed to each other and if he wants to do these things then he should be single! Good luck xx

So.. why would you want to marry someone who you admit say.. "is being deceitful and disgusting" and be in a relationship where.. "I feel so betrayed... I've lost a lot of respect for him through this".

How is any of the above a good basis for the rest of your life with him?

Love should not make you feel betrayed. And if he is doing things you don't agree with, right in front of you.. that shows a real lack of respect for you and your feelings.

You are not even married yet and he obviously has no regard for how you feel about what he does. What do you think that will look like when you are married? Do you really think it will change if it hasn't changed already?

At this point it would really make me question what is going through his mind when he is having sex with you sometimes more than once per day. Is he doing that after his picture surfing as well?

To me, that's a sign that he is not ready to get married and wants to explore other options.

He's not going to get aroused by you ALL the time, but since he does this a lot, even with you right there, it's really just a jerk move. He obviously doesn't respect you. Sure, guys watch porn and jack off and it doesn't really mean anything. Girls get upset because they start feeling insecure. Been through it. But it seems like he's almost addicted to doing this.

Do you two get intimate often? He may feel like it's lacking in that area so he looks elsewhere; that, or he's just a jerk.

Totally understandable that you feel betrayed and hurt. My solution is to try to fulfill his sexual needs more yourself and he'll do it less to images on a computer. Seems like he needs more sexual gratification than he's getting, and this is his way of fulfilling his own needs.Also maybe ask if he can do that using his imagination, not going on the computer and looking at people you know and porno. Definitely talk to him about this and ask what YOU can do to help him NOT do this because it makes you feel uncomfortable.

Most men fantasize about women they will never actually do anything sexual with. Real women make the fantasy more real. The bible has the standard that even thoughts about another woman would be sin. If you were holding to the biblical standard you would not be having sex before marriage. Anything other than the biblical standard is a crap shoot. You might get him to promise he won't but he probably will continue to fantasize and just hide it. If you enjoy fantasizing about men in books, TV or movies you are just as guilty as he is. Men are usually just more visual than woman. Women can get aroused by just words.

My guidance: end the engagement. Whether what he's doing is right or wrong, you've "lost a lot of respect". You'd have to be insane to marry someone you've lost a lot of respect for.

You need to accept the fact that the male sex drive is far stronger than the female. But i would condemn him for looking a sex pictures when you are next to him.

You should make him your ex fiance because this guy is not really marriage material Drop him like a hot potato.

I think it's time to end this relationship. I wouldn't want to be with a man like this. You can do better. Nobody can change his behavior and make it all better.

Next time you guys make love tell him you are thinking of his best friend, that should stop him.