Do you think what my father said was right?

It was Christmas week. I always spent Christmas with him and Thanksgiving with mom since my parents are divorced. This year i spent both holidays with my Mom and Grandmother who came from a foreign country. Anyways I told him before hand he got a little upset but then understood since my grandmother had never spent a Christmas with me is coming.

On Christmas Eve he gives me a call and starts indirectly putting this guilt trip on me. I tell him what my plans are and respond to his guilt trips. As i try to avoid a problem it seems as if he is looking for one so he gets nasty and I rightfully retaliate as he supposedly wants to teach me "to be a man". I stood up for myself in this fight as in previous fight i just took his nasty non stop lectures quietly. I told him to "calm down" when he was raising his voice and speaking over me. We say goodnight and merry Christmas.

The next day was a little more tense but less fighting. He told me he would pick me up the next day because he doesn't want to ruin his plans with his family over in his house to pick me up. Which worked out well for me. But he throws another guilt trip that people were upset i wasnt there and all i could say was "oh ok," because i wasn't sorry. I wanted to spend time with my family who never gets me for Christmas.

This is the main issue here what he said. I told him to calm down because he was getting pushy and loud in the conversation the night before. So in this one he told me "Don't ever tell you parents, nor your family to calm down. If you try to man up on me I will man you back the f**k down. We know whats right for you. I know your a teenager and your testosterone levels are sky high." That really pissed me off because he wants me to grow up as a man yet i cant stand up for myself. I know not to be a jerk but when someone is ranting on me, which is usually only him. I don't want to just take it. He always uses typical teen stereotypes on me yet praises me for being a good boy. I dont do drugs, im great at school, etc.

Then recently. He calls me up. Looking for a problem i guess and lectures me on him being able to ask me what ever question he wants and getting a truthful answer. Now im always truthful to him. I barely ever lie to him. He keeps thinking i hide secrets from him and i dont tell him personal things. (Do i have to?) And i told him i was depressed which was pretty personal. When he says I hide things from him i think he means problems i have in my house with my mother. He is just begging for problems. We live a good normal life here, and there is nothing really to discuss.

Here is why i think he says these things and looks for problems.

1) He is bored and has his morals wrong. He stays home all day on facebook and just taking care of his baby who goes to school now for a few hours. But he pretty much stays home all day. He has a wife but she works from 11 to 7.

2) He is very emotional or bi-polar. One day we might have a good conversation and the next day, he's looking for trouble and randomly starts lecturing me on bullshit we have already discussed.

3) He is too attached to me so whenever im not with him he is upset. (This is confirmed)

4) He lacks testosterone himself. He is a very emotional guy. In the same conversation he told me about how he deserves truthful answers. He says "Why don't you ever call me to do something? I always have to invite you. Why dont you call me to say i love you? blah blah blah." Its kind of rediculous. Im 15. And i do spend time with him. We have seen movies together recently.

5) Leading off of number 4. He just wants to be part of every aspect of my life and needs to know everything.

Is his views on things right? In my opinion he can be a complete *** who always thinks he is right. He never says he is wrong and always thinks what he says or comes up with is right.

Im sorry for making it long but i want to give a good amount of information without being biased. I admit though im extremely mad at him. But i cant show it or he will "man me back down".

What should i do? Am i wrong?

Please help! I really appreciate it.