Can anybody help me with a few life decisions?

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Hello,
My parents are long divorced and my father lives a long distance away. I rarely see him, going once a year for 3-4 weeks or so. I'm 17, almost 18, and I want a part-time job (I'm in school) so as to be able to see him more often because we are really close. I also plan on doing my best to move out of my custodial parent's (mother's) home ASAP (Department of Children and Families, mental institutions, alcohol, and children are not a good combination). My father will help me strike out financially at first, and my college education is going to be paid for by a full-ride scholarship. I have a few questions.Could I take 2-3 weeks of leave from a part-time teen job, paid or unpaid, so as to see my father? Does anyone have any advice in making it on your own at 18? Should I feel as guilty as I do about leaving my mother's home, who, despite many heartaches and issues, loves me and financially supports me?  Thank you :)

Anonym · Accepted Answer

No, you shouldn't feel guilty :) Just let her know you love her and you are grateful for all she has done for you! And if you have worked at this place for a little while (meaning at least 3-4 months) then they might, depending on the place of employment, let you take your trip without consequence. However, you will have to get in really well with the staff and your employers, and you should tell them about your father and the circumstances during your interview, that way it isn't a surprise! 

As for making it on your own I suggest joining Pinterest (follow me :D I've got a few pins/boards on there that would help you- Brynna Sower is my username!) because it can have a lot of tips for college life and being on your own for people with a tight budget. Also, don't shy away from having a room mate (preferably of the same sex... you know how things get xD) because they can help split the cost and you would have someone closeby to go to when you need help. Aside from that, I don't think there's much else you don't have down :) you go girly!

You got this!

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Can anybody help me with a few life decisions?

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