Mothers, I need advice with my three year old..?

I am really big on wanting my kids to have positive feelings about going to sleep. So if it were me, I'd put her in bed & set in a chair near her bed until she was asleep. After doing that for a few nights or so (until she is going to sleep well with that arrangement), then I'd set in a chair near the door until she was asleep, then move on to setting in a chair until she was drowsy & then kisses & leave. If she got up, take her back, set until drowsy & leave again. I would NEVER lock or hold my child in their room. Bedtime is not a punishment & should never feel like one. At her age it is not uncommon to feel a bit insecure alone in the dark. You an help her through this without making her do it alone.

As for eating sugar pops - I am assuming you mean suckers or do you mean a cereal? Either way, if my child was begging for such a thing I'd just stop having them in the house. It is really easy for a child to learn that there is no point in asking for something that isn't there. She asks every three minutes because *sometimes* it works. She has no idea when you will say yes & when you will say no - and at her age, she has nothing better to do then to keep asking, so she does. She figures *one* of the times she asks, the answer will be what she wants - so she keeps on keeping on. Whether you meant to or not, you have actually trained her to behave that way by giving it to her sometimes. I *do* allow my kids some candy & some junk food & such - BUT never when it is requested. It isn't there to be handed out by request. It is a treat once in a while & most days there is NONE in the house, so asking is pointless & thus they do not ask for those things & always ask so pleasantly surprised on the odd occasion they do get something like that. Even with video games, I can guarantee you that if Dh has allowed more video game then I would (this happens sometimes when he's home on weekends & I am trying to get things done & daddy's in charge...my Ds will start begging for more game time. If he is held within his normal limits, he never begs me. I find the better & more defined the limits, the less harping you get from them on those things.

Hope it helps!

I would keep throwing her in there and maybe even get one of those door handle things that stop her from opening her door and put it on there till she is asleep and then remove it for the actual night.....or if you typically leave the door open, try a tall baby gate to keep her in until she starts to see that once she is put in the room for the night she needs to stay put. Letting her fall asleep on the couch will just encourage her behavior because she is getting what she wants but will also make for bad sleep habits and a crankier kid due to lack of proper sleep. I think she is at an age where it is just fine to let her "cry it out" in her room because she does completely understand what she is being told and her crying is just a tantrum not an actual need. As for the pops I would tell her no and start sending her to a time out when she asks more than once and explain manipulation to her. She is old enough that she will learn, but if she is asking over and over and eventually gets one even if you have said no a few times, her behavior is being enforced.

For the question about Sugar Pops - why do you buy something with so much sugar - throw them out and buy something with no sugar - she will eat them, but won't crave them - she is craving them because she is addicted to sugar.

As for bed time, go through a nice, soothing bed time routine - bath, pyjamas, snack, brush teeth, story, and then lay her in her bed. If she gets up, put her back, if she gets up again, put her back again, when she gets up put her back again .... you will have to do this many times the first night, but not so many the second night, and by the fourth night she will stay where you put her because she knows you won't let her stay up.

One of the most important tasks of parenting is to be consistent - if you say she can't get up, you have to mean that she can't get up. If you say, no Sugar Pops, you have to mean no sugar pops.

As for the sweets, just keep telling her no and if she throws a tantrum, just ignore her or try to find a way to defer her attention elsewhere. With a stubborn 3 1/2 year old myself, I know it's easier said than done.

And as far as bedtime, if she gets out of bed, just walk her back into her room, put her back in bed, tuck her in and leave without saying a word. Keep doing it until she stays in her room and goes to sleep. It may take a few nights, but eventually she should just lay in there and go to sleep.

My daughter has nights like this where she keeps getting out of bed, but most nights she stays in there talking to her sister until they both fall asleep.

Does your daughter have a favourite factor she likes plenty ...say stickers. Setup a calendar and use stickers for her to position at the days she is going within the potty. Sometimes incentive is a virture. Or take her distinct out a the tip of the week simply herself and Mom to her favorite ice cream position or exhibit or some thing. It is sudden how swiftly they'll come round to the strategies you deliver them for going at the potty. Good Luck desire this is helping you.