What do you get your Pastor when he has lost a loved one?

the flowers are not for *him*. flowers or a plant should be sent to the funeral home where the grandmother is being waked, then they'll be transferred to where the services are, then to the grave, then some will stay on the grave, some will go to the mourner's home. any local florist can handle this for you.

where i come from it's common to bring food to the home of the mourners. there are a few reasons for this practice. one is that the family is too upset or too busy with arrangements to cook or go to the store and could end up missing meals. also, it's a common practice for people to gather at the main residence after the burial where they will eat and mingle for a while, so food is needed for this, rather than the family having to either make it or pay for it. bring ANYTHING you would like to bring. the idea is that some will bring main dishes, some side dishes, desserts and drinks. so every form of a meal is welcomed, just like a pot luck. anything from lasagne to macaroni salad to cookies or a cake. the most helpful thing is to give the food in disposable containers so that they don't have to wash and return your dish, that's a pain.

aside from these customs, people don't usually give death gifts when someone loses a family member. it would be strange, to say the least. just color inside the lines, honey. in other words... people have been dying for eons so customs have developed around the event for a reason. it's best to learn and follow them rather than to carve out your own path.

Write him a card expressing your sorrow that he has just lost someone he cares about. (If you knew his grandmother you could also mention something nice about her which you remember/ experienced.) A personal note is much more of a consolation than any "gift".

Get him a book, something nice and honest, like the origin of species by Charles Darwin